Hi tealie69

good luck for next wk. Seriously not as bad as we make it in our minds. 

To b honest I took early retirement so work hasn’t been an issue for me.

But... going with you have had different answers because everyone is different. It’s gonna b when you are ready (I know not particularly helpful). Physically - how quick you heal, path results, treatments you may have following your op will impact ( I don’t know any of these things myself until I have my post op meeting with the consultant which is 10 days after my op). Then It’s not always about the physical sometimes it’s where you are emotionally too. 

So, bless I have been no help at all :-/

keep in touch and let us know how I get on next week. 

All the best 

Sandra x

Whhhaaattt!

Yr boss sounds a G*t! He thinks he has empathy with your situation cos his sister has been through it - what a load of!

Bless, not everyone has a place of work that is as supportive as it can be. I hope you didn’t  feel bullied into working and you were actually wanting to go back (some people prefer to go to work ASAP because they want to keep their minds busy and or feel the need to get back to a “normal” routine. 

Take care

Sandra x

It was him that insisted that I did the phased return. He didn't think I should have gone back when I did, he thought it was too early. 

Going back when I did was my decision. My immediate bosses had been told to back off, neither of them have much by way of people skills so I've only dealt with the manager. Luckily or not, depending on where you stand, our top bossed wife is in treatment for breast

cancer as well so there's a fair bit of experience around at the moment. 

Whaaaaat.... a good man lol. 

I’ll get off my high horse and walk away like a cowboy:-)

Sandra x

Wouldn't quite go as far as that. He's a prat in other ways. Discretion isn't something he's very good at but it can be quite funny when he starts on about some of the people around the office. 

Well if he steps out of order I can easily saddle on up back on my high horse for you;-)

Sandra x

I think cancer is very individualistic as is our DNA- every single person reacts differently so to expect you to have same response as others is so wrong. So many cases I read where due to tiredness and physical exertion of working, life, etc. the cancer has returned. It costs an organisation to pay out sick pay so in these times of austerity  - need I say more? I think that is unfair treatment. My post was being made junior and at first I had asked to take it as wanted to continue working - told will be fine couple of weeks after op. Let's just say my line manager's treatment of me working from home (when its never been an issue before) certainly made the decision for me to take redundancy. To be honest I really don't think anyone understands how you feel but you whether it's physically or mentally. I am outraged and feel like coming to your workplace and having a few words!!