Guess I was one of the lucky ones. Restructure at work and I was in middle of consultations when i was diagnosed. Suppose it worked out for the best as I had no other worry but to get through this. I was made redundant so had a double whammy to deal with but I'm alive and recovering - albeit very slowly! Do a bit more physical things around the house and when you're out and about. If you can manage it guess a staggered return to work - if that's what you want. I have been working since i was 15 yrs old and am now 50 so I decided to not work for a year but as I've always worked I want to now go back but know that physically I won't be able to run my house and work. It's a really tough decision and I hope it works out best for you.

Hi tealie69

good luck for next wk. Seriously not as bad as we make it in our minds. 

To b honest I took early retirement so work hasn’t been an issue for me.

But... going with you have had different answers because everyone is different. It’s gonna b when you are ready (I know not particularly helpful). Physically - how quick you heal, path results, treatments you may have following your op will impact ( I don’t know any of these things myself until I have my post op meeting with the consultant which is 10 days after my op). Then It’s not always about the physical sometimes it’s where you are emotionally too. 

So, bless I have been no help at all :-/

keep in touch and let us know how I get on next week. 

All the best 

Sandra x

Eee Rileyroo 

back t work after 2 wks what a star! Brill advice to go back on a phased return if possible.  Certainly something I would have done if I was still working. 

Take care me dear

Sandra x

Whhhaaattt!

Yr boss sounds a G*t! He thinks he has empathy with your situation cos his sister has been through it - what a load of!

Bless, not everyone has a place of work that is as supportive as it can be. I hope you didn’t  feel bullied into working and you were actually wanting to go back (some people prefer to go to work ASAP because they want to keep their minds busy and or feel the need to get back to a “normal” routine. 

Take care

Sandra x

It was him that insisted that I did the phased return. He didn't think I should have gone back when I did, he thought it was too early. 

Going back when I did was my decision. My immediate bosses had been told to back off, neither of them have much by way of people skills so I've only dealt with the manager. Luckily or not, depending on where you stand, our top bossed wife is in treatment for breast

cancer as well so there's a fair bit of experience around at the moment. 

Whaaaaat.... a good man lol. 

I’ll get off my high horse and walk away like a cowboy:-)

Sandra x

Wouldn't quite go as far as that. He's a prat in other ways. Discretion isn't something he's very good at but it can be quite funny when he starts on about some of the people around the office.