The good and the bad

Hi peeps

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Taking the excellent advice on this website I pretty much started by taking it one day at a time. This does indeed help. 

I thought to share the good and the bad and would love to hear anyone else's should they wish to share.

Today I had both a good and a bad moment. I received 2 letters in the post.

The first was from the hosp confirming my op date (my bad moment) cos my stomach dropped and I had that now familiar feeling of anxiousness take hold for a moment but shook it off cos I know it is needed. 

The good - my 2nd letter - as if... a tax rebate - boom  . Not half put a much needed smile on my face . Reckon a my treat family meal is in order.

Eeee it's the little things ain't it. 

Take care peeps 

Sandra x ️X

 

  • Ah thanks Chrisie

    Just done final add up its actually 13 wks and 2 days from date of diagnosis of breast cancer to last day of  RT - meet surgeon in April for review then onto an annual review.

    what a ride it’s been. How quick does the treatment machine kick in. Carrying out its work while u feel like you  are being dragged along clueless ( despite their valiant attempts to explain everything). I went from someone who wouldn’t consider sunbathing top less to whooping them out at the drop of a hat:-) laying there chatting to male radiotherapists while they draw on me boob:-) who knew:-0

    Then discharged.... cut adrift and suddenly your days are your own again. Me.... I love it but totally get why some struggle. 

    Thank you for saying brave but felt more like lack of choice. The new lifestyle we didn’t choose is without a doubt made easier by the support of those on here. From the been there done thats to the I am going through this too. The nervous chatting in the hosp waiting rooms and the sharing of stories. Yup humbled and grateful to everyone who has touched my life through this. X

     

     

     

  • Not posted on this thread for a while but here is today’s good nd bad...

    The bad:- yesterday  bumped into a friend not seen in a while in the school yard while I dropped off my granddaughter. She told me her husband has prostrate cancer which has spread and she has been diagnosed with leukaemia. Sad catch up:-(

    The good:- My daughter who is doing a career change has completed her 1 st yr exams ( to be an electrician) and got a distinction... well proud:-)

    Life continues don’t it. 

    Take care peeps x

  • Hey Sandra. Im just starting my journey and enjoyed reading this thread. I've been diagnosed with stage 1 invasive breast cancer in left breast with an additional area that although currently benign is showing abnormal cell change and growth. So out they ate both coming. I'm scheduled for my OP on 13th April. Sentinel nodes to be removed for testing also. Then if margins and nodes clear I will also be for 3 weeks radiotherapy. As my cells are also ER+ I will need hormone therapy but that's a doozy. I'm staying positive and reassuring everyone around me (It's ok I'm not dying yet). I dont think people know how to react to me when i say things like that. My other half thinks I'm either coping amazingly well or in denial. Anyways i thought id say hi as your journey is so close to the one im about to take....plus I like the idea that for every negative there is a positive...karma and balance. Maybe I should buy a lottery ticket

  • Hi there Sandra. . It's a shame about catch up, but maybe helped each other, knowing how many of us that are now on this journey...  

    But high 5 to your daughter ... electrician a ... that should come in handy ... 

    I'm just waiting to have little op on scar (again) as got 2 to my lumps behind it ... had a small hole that never healed ... told them to 're do months ago ... oh well here goes ... 

    Just sitting with my granddaughter. . Ain't grandkids the best for taking mind off things ... any ways Sandra ... keep going hun ... take care ... Chrissie x

  • Hi there ... just sending you a vertual hug ... from one breast lady to another ... we've all helped ourselfs and others that come along on this rollercoaster of breast cancer ... once l got my head around it in the early days , l felt ready to take this cancer by the balls and run with it ... coz cancer wants us to panic and give in ... but we were in the same place as you and it is so emotional , and different days you feel different things ... but it's a long ol journey so when you have a down day, remember wer all on this rollercoaster with you ..

    So brave lady ... the op isn't half as bad as I'd imagined ... and some of us breast ladies were home in the evening with a nice cupper... but it is more tender where lymph nodes are taken ... that takes a while to get better ... take care Chrissie xx

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    Hi Sandra,

    I’ve not forgotten you. I had a few months when I found it very difficult to participate in anything on this site. I lost my sight in one eye and was losing it in the second in just 8 weeks. I’ve since had an operation to both eyes – and what a difference!  Where would we be without the wonderful doctors in this country? I feel very blessed to have regained my sight.

    I am glad to hear that surgery and treatment are both behind you now and hope that your appointment with your surgeon in April goes well.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

    Hi Sandra,

    I’ve not forgotten you. I had a few months when I found it very difficult to participate in anything on this site. I lost my sight in one eye and was losing it in the second in just 8 weeks. I’ve since had an operation to both eyes – and what a difference!  Where would we be without the wonderful doctors in this country? I feel very blessed to have regained my sight.

    I am glad to hear that surgery and treatment are both behind you now and hope that your appointment with your surgeon in April goes well.

    Congratulations to your daughter - one very proud mum deservedly!

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi cornishpastie

    I get where u r coming from- my thinking was - all the angst in the world ain’t gonna change a thing so...best get on then.

    Bless your other half.. I sometimes think it is harder on our families in as much as although we are going through it - they helplessly have to take a step back and pretty much watch the one they love go through it from the side lines. 

    The 13 th will b here before u know it so try nd look on the time till then as free time from everything hospital nd do whatever u fancy .. I know easier said than done.

    On the day of my op there were 4 of us in the day case room all having the same op. We pulled up our chairs ( didn’t get a bed) nd chatted nd yes... even laughed together. I was home by 7:30 pm cup of tea 2 paracetamol then early nigt - I had made the op much bigger in my head than it actually was. Next day - uncomfortable nd tender ( u know didn’t want it knocked:-) but no pain ( so didn’t have any paracetamol) nd full movement in my arm. Nurse popped in at 11:00am checked my dressing nd left. By 12:30pm I was at shops with daughter for a bit of a browse then t pub for lunch:-)

    This was my experience nd everyone is different but... can honestly say was much less of a deal than I had built it up to be in my mind.

    If u have any questions or need to voice... anything ( good or bad) we are all here for u.

    Yeah u go for that lottery ticket girl:-) a big win would be a cracking “good” wouldn’t it :-) x

     

     

     

     

  • Ah thanks for dropping by Chrisie 

    tbh my friend was.... resolved. She is a strong lady nd said straight away she couldn’t b doing with everyone who means well. She was just getting on with it cos she has to. Its that kinda attitude that will get you through:-) I know this but was still sad as I walked away.

    Daughter doing brill:-) her husband is a joiner, Tiler, Plasterer... yes all very handy;-). It’s her two lil ones I look after while they work. They r 5&2 now... love em to bits nd keep me busy:-)

    Glad hosp looking after u... they are doing the right thing playing it safe and removing the lumps. Am I right in thinking u are in next week for your op... u know the drill better than me so will b thinking of u nd that small pressure u feel on your shoulder is just my squeeze of support. Take care me dear x

  • Oh jolamine how lovely to hear from you.

    Thank you for your well wishes much appreciated... only 4 mths since end of treatment- feels a lifetime ago. Don’t think I have any tests in April think it’s a how are things and how I’m doing with the meds. 

    Our NHS is phenomenal isn’t it. So glad to hear about your sight you must be so relieved bless. You are such an inspiration Jolamine - straight back on here supporting us all....thank you so much x

  • Hi I've have also been diagnosed with invasive ductal cancer stage 1and have my op on the 17th of April does anyone know when I will start my radiotherapy