The good and the bad

Hi peeps

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Taking the excellent advice on this website I pretty much started by taking it one day at a time. This does indeed help. 

I thought to share the good and the bad and would love to hear anyone else's should they wish to share.

Today I had both a good and a bad moment. I received 2 letters in the post.

The first was from the hosp confirming my op date (my bad moment) cos my stomach dropped and I had that now familiar feeling of anxiousness take hold for a moment but shook it off cos I know it is needed. 

The good - my 2nd letter - as if... a tax rebate - boom  . Not half put a much needed smile on my face . Reckon a my treat family meal is in order.

Eeee it's the little things ain't it. 

Take care peeps 

Sandra x ️X

 

  • Sandra, I have not been offered any of that work groups or psychologist. I asked right after my treatment and my oncologist told me Brutal sure and something it has to be done by my primary care physician and really I have forgotten about that but I think I’m going to make an appointment with him and see if I can get a referral.  I think I totally need it. I need to see things in different way. Not everything negative. I have good things I have good daughters beautiful grandchildren my work is doing good I’m making good money and even though with all that some days up I feel miserable and alone. 

     

    Thank you 

     

    xoxo. Liliana 

  • Hey it is ok to feel negative sometimes. As long as you can bring yourself out of it. It's a massive change to life and turns life into challenges.

    So I'm back on the rollercoaster- boob has been hurting, swollen hot to the touch, bad bouts of fatigue so here we go again with the numerous dr's appts. I'm pretty sure it hasn't come back but we all have that niggly fear. Plus, I don't know about you guys, but am constantly surrounded by reminders of cancer so when trying to get on with it, it comes to remind you. Sorry if I sound selfish but I mean it in a way that hope is understandable.

    My poor brother-in-law has been fighting very hard but brain tumour is back. To top it off, his employers have given him early redundancy so they can't afford their house any more and now have to sell it. One of my very good friends is also terminal.

    Life sure throws alot of curveballs. All we can do is help others and make the most of each day. Cut out negative ppl out and do things to enjoy life. Take it easy ladies and keep warm. It's freezing!!!

  • It's completely nuts isn't it beach! I was so shocked. I don't know how they pulled it all off without me catching on on lol. 

    Teddy is absolutely adorable. I've had loads of cuddles but self imposed ban at the moment due the chest infection. X

  • I watched it too Cornish. It was amazing and so well derserved xx

    good - nurse is not coming now for a month so back on the tablets without a break.

    bad - not sure they are working but maybe they need longer. Seeing oncologist on 30th, when she gets back from holiday, so will know more. My 41 year old daughter is having her hip replaced on 26th!

  • Hi beach

    please tell me u were up at 2 in the morning cos cos u had been partying!?!

    hope all is well lass ... thinking of you. X

  • Bless.... it’s standard here because sadly how you are feeling is very normal.

    perhaps you could ask your primary care dr about support groups too. I think this would be of great help too to know you are not alone in your feelings.

    make no mistake what you have gone through is life changing so your mind looking at the world with a different slant to it is not surprising.

    stay strong ... deep breathes.... don’t struggle alone- seek help.   Know we are here and understanding exactly how u r feeling. 

    Tight hugs being sent your way ️X

  • Oh jbains I am so sorry to be reading..... well.... all of this. 

    First and foremost I hope all goes well at your appointments... our old mantra... it’s nothing till it’s diagnosed it’s something. So you know how it goes steer your mind away from the dark places it wants to take you... see mantra. 

    No wonder u feel u r surrounded by cancer..... you are. Tightest of hugs being sent your way for your family and friends going through this.

    look after yourself lass and do nice things. Thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way x ️X

  • Aw Cornish 

    you have and are dealt with so much bad... how wonderful to see your life being cushioned by heartwarming good ️.

    Teddy.... oh my I am having a virtual hold of that bundle of love... can almost smell the new baby smell :-) he is 7 levels of perfection ️ 

    The video was so heart lifting ️ You must b so proud of your family x

     

  • Morning dragonfly 

    wow how great your monitoring has gone to monthly... well there’s a win right there :-)

    its very early days of treatment but got everything crossed that it is starting to shrink. 

    Blinking heck lass ... a hip replacement so young for your daughter! Mind her hip must be causing her a lot of pain bless-  for them to be doing cos they don’t normally like to do so young. 

    Bloke at work had his done and he never looked back...said it was the best thing he had... ever ... gave him his life back. Good luck to your daughter wishing her a speedy recovery when they do it. 

    Look after yourself lass ️X

  • Whoops nearly missed wor dizzel ( how very dare I ;-)

    ah lass I am soooo proud of you. You really are an inspiration ️

    I’m chuffed t bits lil man is doing so well... and his mammy well.... go u girl! 

    How much has your life turned around eh..... makes me smile just thinking about it.:-)

    look after yourself and hold your loved ones close x ️X