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The good and the bad

Sandra123
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Hi peeps

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Taking the excellent advice on this website I pretty much started by taking it one day at a time. This does indeed help. 

I thought to share the good and the bad and would love to hear anyone else's should they wish to share.

Today I had both a good and a bad moment. I received 2 letters in the post.

The first was from the hosp confirming my op date (my bad moment) cos my stomach dropped and I had that now familiar feeling of anxiousness take hold for a moment but shook it off cos I know it is needed. 

The good - my 2nd letter - as if... a tax rebate - boom  . Not half put a much needed smile on my face . Reckon a my treat family meal is in order.

Eeee it's the little things ain't it. 

Take care peeps 

Sandra x ️X

 

  • Offline in reply to Robsett

    Hello robsett, you're certainly are not alone.....glad you found us....xxxxx

  • Offline in reply to Dragonfly46

    Oh dragonfly, it all seems so impossible doesn't it....I think it would help a little if your children were able to talk.....I know I couldn't cope if I cooped it all up. Who is going with you on wed? 

    Do you get any sort of support from your husband at all? 

    Like rileyroo has already said, wait to see what happens on wed ( I am also seeing oncologist wed) then update us and go from there.....plus.....72?? By eck...your in your prime! Don't give up yet ....we need you! Xxxxx

  • Offline in reply to Dragonfly46

    Hay Mrs dragonfly...

    None of that lass .. you can do this .. have a good scream .. one of those punchbags they use in boxing .. punch it till you get it all out ... think what Sandra would say to you ...

    I fell out with my oldest son years ago .. he knew I was having a masectomy ... and knew the ward I was in .. l kept looking at that door to my ward for the whole 3 days .. even having an emergency op at 3 A M to 're open (long story) but he never came ...

    So your kids maybe trying to be strong for you .. that's the norm .. so many block it off .. it doesn't mean they don't care .. it's a safety valve ... and I was married to a man for 27 years .. had 4 call backs over those years for mamorgrams... didn't come once ... did it all on my own ...

    But you got lots on here.. they'll see you through and vertually hold your hand .. we can do this .. have a vent and you get them boxing gloves back on ... we need you to kick cancers butt with us .. 

    Sending you a vertual hug ... listen to rilleyroo... she's a wise ol bird .. l can just hear her saying ... not so much of the old ..  big hug to all ... I'll be popping on to check you ...

  • Offline in reply to Dragonfly46

    Dragonfly.

    Hold your horses! You’re as old as you feel or so they say. See what your oncologist says and take it from there. Slow and steady wins the race.... Take a day at a time, a step at a time and know we are all with you.....every small step of the way. On Wednesday we will all be there at your appointment with you.    We’ve got your back,

    Virtual hand squeeze from my hand to yours to take with you.

    Sundial

  • Offline in reply to Sundial

    Thank you all so much for your support. My husband was shocked at the thought of no treatment and says he will be there for me. I just hope he and the kids are strong enough. I have always been the strong one.  

  • Offline in reply to Dragonfly46

    It's hard being the strong one all the time, now you have to hand it over....try and talk to your children, they need to step up now, they will be finding it all overwhelming themselves, and most probably can only cope by not facing things but face it they must...you need them now more than ever, just to be able to pick up the phone and let it out ......xxxxxx

  • Offline in reply to Marlyn
    Hello everybody, @Dragonfly46 I understand that you are very scared and you feel alone... Maybe you don't have many people close to you that passed through similar situations, and for that reason, they don't know how to deal with it... In my case, it is my boyfriend the one who has cancer, and I'm a supporter, however I also feel countless times the feeling of loneliness because no matter how I try to speak with people, nobody knows what to say, and sometimes it seems they speed up the conversation with things like "well, you have to be positive", or "let me know if you need something", instead of continually talking to me. Perhaps it's too hard for them. I speak with a counsellor sometimes, at least it's somebody that I'm certain will listen... In any case, if you need someone to talk to you can message me, or post in the forum. Hopefully, you are still feeling good enough to do some activities... Taking trips, walks and do fun stuff helps to make you feel like you have a normal life. When it comes to decisions, you have to evaluate with your oncologist and slowly decide the way you prefer to go... Doctors usually are helpful, indicating the best way to treat the diseases. Take care :)
  • Offline in reply to Robsett

    Hi Robsett

    welcome xxx

    So much wonderful support and encouragement here....also lots of sharing happy moments :)

  • Offline in reply to Dragonfly46

    Hi dragonfly xxx 

    Sending you love and virtual hugs xxx you are stronger than you know xxx 

    are you able to chat to your c nurse to tell her how you are feeling?

    will be virtually holding your hand on Wednesday.....all day 

    XXX

  • Offline in reply to Pippin

    Afternoon everyone.

    A very mixed emotions day today.

    Good

    My daughter has got a job after having been made redundant before Christmas. We are all thrilled and very relieved.

    Bad

    Our beloved Monty dog passed away overnight after a short illness. Post mortem  showed stomach cancer. Well ladies, even our pets are not immune.

    So very sad but very happy at the same time. If that’s possible.

    Sundial

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