Just had the nurse ring me....looks like I need chemo....4 months worth and herceptin.....any advise tips and soothing words would be wonderful....feeling very scared xxx

Ahh Marlyn,

Sorry you got to have the dreaded chemo buy if its any comfort it really wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Obviously it's no walk in the park and I had numerous infections but was surprised how doable it actually was. Hair loss happened pretty quick, followed by lashes and brows, then big toe nails but they grew back super quick. You'll be surprised. I also had 4 months of chemo and am about to have my 9th herceptin on Thursday so at the half way mark. Another 9 to go and that's treatment finished. Only side effect from that is really itchy skin but it's tolerable with all the right creams. You'll be fine I'm sure but I understand your concerns. The whole process absolutely flies by you'll be pleased to know:-) xx

It's my pleasure :-)

I got the gelish done once every 3 weeks as it grows out but yeh I did start just before I started chemo. My hair grew back stupidly quick but it is erratic and doesn't know what it's doing lol. Grows outwards instead of down and very curly so I still wear a wig or risk looking like an escaped mental patient ha xx

I read somewhere that after chemo your hair will be the opposite of how it was? My hair is uber curly so might be straight! 

I am already sourcing wigs and have ordered a couple of turbans and have even made enquiries about micro blading my eyebrows...phew...so much to think about! Xxx

Hi Marlyn

hope u slept well last night and starting to get your head around your news. 

Dizzel what a star supporting as u are-  just what Marlyn needs. 

Chin up lass ... hugs x

Morning peeps 

bad :- so blinking cold I struggled to get my car door open this morning... it was stuck!

good :- life, life is good. Don’t waste one moment. Grab it with both hands, don’t let go and run at it full speed scooping up every moment of joy you can ️ 

Have as good a day as u can peeps x

Didn't sleep a wink, feel beggerd today! Told all my residents this morning so that was another cry fest....

the support on here is heart warming, I truly love you all...xx

The good- finally got hospital appointment for lump on my nose ( they think a cyst) seen in morning treatment in afternoon roll on 25th feb. Hopefully then people will stop asking what have  I done to the bridge of my nose!

The Bad- none like Sandra says life is good enjoy every moment you can x 

Every single one of you on here are wonderful lovely people and don't ever forget it, you sexy babes!!

Life is good - there is always a positive in all we have and all that is put in our path. Sandra said it - grab all in life with both hands. Remember to wear gloves today tho as it's blinking freezing!!

Marlyn so sorry you need chemo but it is one step closer to getting better. I expect I will need the same after mastectomy for one or other and possibly radio too. I am just hoping to get through my appointment next Wednesday. I wish I was further down the line.

My appointment is next wed too....will be thinking of you.....yes, we just need to get on and do it don't we....I hope and pray for a good positive way forward for you xxx

Morning peeps 

hope u got some rest last night Marlyn ️ Dragonfly hows things with u.. hope hubby is feeling better ️

Bad :- cold but let’s face it I’ve got plenty of coats lol

good :- gonna pack for few days away... looking forward to it. Other daughters boss has offered her use of their cabin as a long weekend freebie.  So her, hubby nd lil ones are off there for a few days too ( it’s a rather posh one, on lake front, done out reallly fancy with jacuzzi, log fire etc) I’d have been with them like a shot if not already away lol. Nice gesture from her boss. 

Have as good a day as u can peeps x

Morning peeps 

hope u got some rest last night Marlyn ️ Dragonfly hows things with u.. hope hubby is feeling better ️

Bad :- cold but let’s face it I’ve got plenty of coats lol

good :- gonna pack for few days away... looking forward to it. Other daughters boss has offered her use of their cabin as a long weekend freebie.  So her, hubby nd lil ones are off there for a few days too ( it’s a rather posh one, on lake front, done out reallly fancy with jacuzzi, log fire etc) I’d have been with them like a shot if not already away lol. Nice gesture from her boss. 

Have as good a day as u can peeps x

Morning peeps,

the bad.....woke up with a banging headache.....yuk 

the good.....got appointment mon to see about getting my eyebrows done and another appointment thurs to try on wigs.... do I go for the manroe glamour look or the miss money penny look??? Replies on a postcard please xxxx

Morning

I would go for the disreputable and have a purple one!

Sundial

Bless ... the headache will b stress. I too got banging headaches nd my mind went t dark places thinking all sorts.....no.... it was stress.  Things will settle down.. often when we get our actual treatment plan. Will b thinking of u nd dragonfly on Wednesday ️

Well the hair....u do suit your dark hair. I would get my brows done first( shape nd colour of brows can totally change our look)  then buy the wigs I suit. Not often we get t choose .... any colour and style for our hair ... embrace :-) I go t hairdressers with a picture nd say.. cut my face like that ;-) x

Yes! The purple will match my eye bags..lol , think I will defo be rocking that look! Xxxc

Yes, it is stress, I actually slept better last night....but oh by eck this morning!! But Jeremy Kyle cheered me up no end...

yes, thought the eyebrows were a good starting point, they will be micro bladed(!) sounds worse than chemo lol! Xx

ps loving your flowers xx

Thank you Sandra. Hubby much better although not fully recovered.

Strangely I am feeling worse about things - swings and roundabouts.

I have discovered my dear children do not want to talk about my condition and it doesn’t help that they are both 3 hours away.

I am so sorry to hear your children don't want to talk about your condition, that's a tough one to get your head around.

xxx

So sorry your kids don’t want to hear. Some take over, some are middle of the roaders who do whatever you want then some can’t handle it and block it out. 

If we are really lucky the way they sway suits our own needs. If we are not that lucky we get upset. The  distance between you and yours makes everything more intense. 

If you need anyone to talk to or bounce feelings and thoughts off we are here. ️

Im not surprised you are up and down you still don’t actually  have your full care plan. Everyone always told me I would feel better just knowing what the plan of action was to get rid of the cancer.... for me they were right. 

I hope on Wednesday you get the rest of your plan and when it starts. Got everything crossed it will b a better plan than you have prepped for. Not long now lass ... hang in there x