The good and the bad

Hi peeps

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Taking the excellent advice on this website I pretty much started by taking it one day at a time. This does indeed help. 

I thought to share the good and the bad and would love to hear anyone else's should they wish to share.

Today I had both a good and a bad moment. I received 2 letters in the post.

The first was from the hosp confirming my op date (my bad moment) cos my stomach dropped and I had that now familiar feeling of anxiousness take hold for a moment but shook it off cos I know it is needed. 

The good - my 2nd letter - as if... a tax rebate - boom  . Not half put a much needed smile on my face . Reckon a my treat family meal is in order.

Eeee it's the little things ain't it. 

Take care peeps 

Sandra x ️X

 

  • Aw I’m chuffed for u sundial. Was def off the mark t withdraw when u had booked. 

    Eeeek u have jollies t look forward to :-) x

  • Yes I’m back in the swing....

  • The bad...

    Been to the funeral of an ex colleague today. Melanoma that had metastasised into her brain. 

    She retired in December 2017 and was diagnosed at the end of February. A lovely lady who was passionate about improving the life chances of young children with special needs. 

    She had known that her diagnosis was life limiting but lived what she had to the full whilst she could. 

    The world needs people like her and now there is one less. 

    Can’t think of anything good but I’m working on it. 

  • Good - excellent tap class last night, tried some street tap for the first time! 

    Bad weather is rubbish and it's s trip to the dental hygienist today! 

     

    WQ xx

  • I’m so sorry t read this Rileyroo. Always brings it home to us how cruel this disease can b. 

    I’m sure some friends nd work colleagues of old must think I bang on a bit about retire as soon as u can nd do everything you want that u can (I do go on a bit). The only limitations  are health nd wealth. These 2 things are only as big a deal as u make them out t b. It’s such a short Unpredictable life.... live it. 

    I raise a glass of respect to the lady I never knew but touched my friends life in such a positive way. 

    Hugs rileyroo big hugs x ️X

  • Eee warrior love your posts. Honest about the low moments  but joyous in your good times. You tap dance your way to a smile on my face. Keep it up lass :-) x

  • Bad:- still missing the family but they FaceTimed nd lil ones are full of it lol

    good :- walked dog up t daughters check house. Cos my fruit bowls were down t 3 lemons I popped into son in laws mams ( who is on hol in Tenerife) nd picked some apples o my they are lush... so sweet. There are so many on the tree that lil ones picked nd washed 40 each to take to each of their class on Friday :-) once again my fruit bowl is full of these lovely apples yum 

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  • Totally agree with you on the retire as soon as you can! I've slowed down - worked since i was 15 yrs old and it took a cancer diagnosis to make me realise I need to do what I want in life and not stay in that rat race. It is hard and if you're a customised to a certain way of life you have to make a few adjustments due to finances. (Rich toy boy would help!)

    It's very hard working after treatment but being active is so important so keep going ladies! I don't know if it's the weather or what it is but am so so tired. Have been all week. Perhaps some nice luscious cheesecake will help.....

    Hope you're all doing as well as possible and big hugs out to all.

  • Oh Riley I'm so sorry to hear about your friend and colleague. Life can be so cruel. It makes me appreciate the early diagnosis and treatment I had all the more.

    The good: I'm going from strength to strength. Am now working from 10 to 4 every day and next week im going back to full time with the option of leaving earlier every day if I can't cope. I can't ask for more really. 

    The bad: heard a lot in the press recently about ladies who have experienced breast cancer recurrance and died. Just heard about olivia newton john whose breast cancer has now metastisised to her spine after successfully battling it twice in the past. Is it normal just after treatment ends to get a bit emotional about this. Feel like I'm over reacting when I hear these things.

  • You're not over reacting. It's very upsetting. I cannot watch the cancer research adverts and the recent news of the podcaster who lost her battle - was in tears. Good friend of ours has lost his battle with brain cancer - diagnosed same time as me. A funeral will take place 1 Oct. It is very hard.

    I might be pessimistic but feel like once you've had cancer you're a ticking bomb. It will come back whether it's 1 year, 10 years or 30 years. But I don't stick onto that but it's just stressed the fact that I will do all I've wanted to and just live, love and laugh to the extreme.

    So I text my sister who wasn't speaking to me and she called on Sat and said a few more horrible things to me so I did feel why did I bother but I've satisfied my conscience now. I tried but my reaction and how I handle it is in my control now. 

    Living happily is hard work for everyone. Just be happy with what you have and leave the past there. Weve been thru enough now to actually give a **** about petty things. Live to the fullest, laugh heartily and love those around you wholly.