Hi. I was diagnosed with breast cancer 2 years ago, I had surgery a few weeks later and it’s the most nervous I’ve ever been, but you’ll be absolutely fine, I was it’s just a long day waiting around xx

Good morning clarebear and glad u have dropped by :-)

ah brill 2 yrs post op. Would love to know how things are going 2 yrs on if u feel like sharing:-

all currently on this thread are indeed post op ( if anyone is reading nd newly diagnosed or waiting for results op etc..you too are welcome to join in ). Wonder [@clairebear]‍ if you have read my 1st post nd not clicked on the tab to toggle you to latest post :-) 

anywhose me dear thanks for posting would love you to join in with the rest of us on this post :-) x

Hi thanks to you both for the reply. Just got home from work and had a nice big letter (nice said in sarcasm) from the hospital with my chemo dates in starting next thursday. All seems so real now. Was shaking when I was reading it. Goes up til September for now and then will get another schedule when the medication changes. I just wanna get this done now. I have promised myself getting through this I will never complain about an eye bag or bit of cellulite ever again. Vanity seems so irrelevant now. Just want my health xx

The good.....having hair done tomorrow as is very dry and lacking any oomph!

The bad....none today.

Hey dizzle glad to see you found us. I have a 9 year old and I started by explaining that a bit of my boob was sick and that I would need an operation and special medicines to get it better. She accepted this and asked a few questions which I answered honestly but I didn't use the word cancer. She got a bit clingy at one point and we kept asking if she was ok or wanted to ask anything...then one day she just blurted out the c word and pointed at me. She had clearly picked up on things so I had to explain a bit more. She has coped really well and to be honest I think she took her lead from us....we always tried to be positive about it with her and reassured her that her world won't change. 

Alt the end of the day I don't think there is a perfect way...you just have to do it the way you think is right. X

Ah thank you for the advice. When I was diagnosed the hospital gave me a book called mummy has a lump which is a story book designed I suppose to explain to kids in simple terms. I think I will just sit and let her read it to me and explain a few more things. She’s a sensitive little thing who has been through a lot for various reasons which is why I worry but I will just play it down and reassure her. That’s all I can do I guess. Xx

That's ok. I was given a comic strip type book but it was a bit too full on when I read it so decided not to use it. You can only do it your way...you know your daughter and how she reacts so go with your gut x

Ah I remember the hospital letter heart sink moment ( mine was my op date). 

Not too long to wait for it to start the action to get rid of this unwelcome piece of....

Have you informed your place of work of your diagnosis yet? They need to be on your side through this. 

Oh lass I know you are scared but make no mistake you can do this. Big hugs ️X

Good

Had a relaxing day with compulsory costa latte. The sun has shone for most of the day.

Bad

Still feel sick from antibiotics.

Dizzle

My children are both adults and it was difficult enough with them so I really appreciate your situation.

I am a primary school teacher who has taught children your daughter’s age. In my experience they like to know as much of the truth as they can cope with. They also appreciate honesty when asking direct questions. Support and positivity is also important. So Cornish answer seems to fit the bill but you know your daughter best and what she will be able to cope with. Maybe just small pieces of information at a time because we all but especially children get overwhelmed by too much information especially where emotions are involved. 

From a teacher’s point of view if you feel able to do so I would suggest that you let her school and teacher know the basic details. From experience it will be helpful for her teacher to know what is happening and how much you have told her so they can support her too. After all she spends a lot of time in class and believe me children react in different ways to this sort of thing. Also if she trusts her teacher she may want to talk to her.

Sundial

Hi, yeh my work know and are the most supportive employees ever. Been their accountant for 13 years now and they’ve always bent over backwards for me. I have been signed off for the foreseeable but still go in every now and then as a good will gesture but I basically pick and choose my hours with full pay so I’m very lucky in that instance x

Thank you that’s really helpful. I never even thought about letting her teacher know but you’re absolutely right that they should know as I spose it will allow them to understand more if she’s maybe having an off day. Thanks so much x

You are welcome.

i know often schools are the last to find out these things. Naturally parents have other things on their mind. But it is so important in the support of your family.

Sundial

Ah that’s brilliant news dizzel. 

Goes a long way if you are not worried about work. 

It’s both amazing and yet daunting how quick the treatment machine kicks in isn’t it. From first appointment the waits seem to both drag yet hit us like a speeding train when the next step gets here. 

Have you been given a prep list of things to do? X

Ah that’s brilliant news dizzel. 

Goes a long way if you are not worried about work. 

It’s both amazing and yet daunting how quick the treatment machine kicks in isn’t it. From first appointment the waits seem to both drag yet hit us like a speeding train when the next step gets here. 

Have you been given a prep list of things to do? X

No nothing. To be honest my oncologist hasn’t been great. I sort of got shoved out the door and told to wait for news then a letter with a schedule of dates to just show up x

What! Did the letter have any leaflets in. If not wonder if your first appointment is to be a walked and talked through the procedure etc.

Call out to anyone reading this that has had chemo.. is there anything dizzel can do in prep?

@tigercub hi hun - just wondering if u have any pearls of wisdom for dizzel x

No it was defo to start the chemo as they had scheduled times with cold cap then medication then cold cap again. Well I have an appointment with him Tuesday so will demand some answers x

Don’t get me wrong ... I know nothing about chemo but heck when I was sent for an MRI scan my letter from the hosp had 2 leaflets in 1 what an MRI is and what it is used for with frequently asked questions nd 2 what to expect when u have an MRI scan and frequently asked questions.. nd that was just for a scan! I find it hard to believe they don’t supply leaflets on chemo... could b wrong but just doesn’t seem right bless x

I know. I got all the booklets about cancer but nothing in depth about actual chemo. Just an invitation to a chemotherapy pre assessment which is basically a seminar on what to expect but that’s on the 12th of June when my first chemo session is the 7th lol x

Sigh... ok... so.. totes up to you but wonder if you want give your BC Nurse you have been allocated a ring. Make a list of questions you may have and if she has access to any supporting leaflets on chemo she could post out as the pre   Chemo seminar is after you actually start treatment. 

Bless... a little heads up would go a long way x

Hi lasses ... just wanted to see how you all were, and say welcome to our new lass ... 

So hope you all have a good Friday ... roll on another week end ... so sweet dreams to you all ...

Well nigh night  everyone. Time for bed says Zebedee......boing!

Sundial

Morning Ladies

Good- two days rest have done me good back to work this morning! 

Bad- need to stop pushing myself so hard and remember I am still healing inside!

have a good weekend hope sun comes out for you all xx 

Good morning peeps :-)

Ah glad the couple of days rest has helped :-)

bad :- it’s early.. none yay:-)

Good :- June begins.. sun is shining. Heading into garden to have breakfast :-) chillaxing day in garden reading book. Out for meal tonight with my girls ️. It’s the little things ️