Hi Sandra,

Welcome to Cancer Chat. I am sorry to hear about your recent diagnosis.You are doing well by trying to cope one day at a time.The first letter you received today wasn't so bad.. It is going to remove the cancer in your breast and give you the chance to live a normal life once all this treatment is over, so the sooner you start the sooner you'll be finished with it all. The second was a definite bonus.

What surgery are you going to have - a lumpectomy or a mastectomy?

I have had 2 bouts of primary breast cancer. The first was diagnosed 7 years ago and the second the following year. Have you got a treatment plan in place post-surgery?

Please stay in touch. Remember, there is always someone here whenever you feel like talking.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine.

Thanks for the reply. 

I have 2 small lumps in my R breast (no one can feel them nor is there any outward change to be seen nor pain. Caught on routine screening).

They are grade 1 and grade  2 both invasive cancers. On MRI my lymph nodes look clear.

I am having a lumpectomy on the 21st as a day case. They are hoping to make 1 incision to get to both but will re assess on day. They are also taking 2 sentinel nodes for biopsy just in case. 

After the op all things being equal I am to have radiotherapy mon to fri for 3 wks.

Wow how matter of fact does it all sound in the written word when it is so not.

7yrs post diagnosis - I tip my hat to you Jolamine. When we are first diagnosed it's like our lives ended in that moment. This is so not true "living with Cancer" never a truer word.

take care Jolamine 

Sandra x

Hey Rileyroo

I am definately up for a meet up. We haven't used the c word with the youngest. We just told her that their is a part of mummys booby that is sick and the doctor has to take it away. She asked a few questions....more about who would look after her and daddy while I'm in hospital lol. I had to explain that daddy is able to look after himself and her....it was quite a funny conversation. 

I might ask for a meeting with HR so that I can be clear on things with them but feel quite ok that they will be supportive.

Davek, one of the guys on here, directed me to part of this site regarding cancer and how to deal with employers. I found it extremely useful, might be worth a read. 

Hiya haven't been on for a few days been poorly with an ear infection and working but decided its time I went on the sick x

Hi Rileyroo

Do you know where I can find it please?

Morning everyone 

ah cornishpastie Rileyroo is one of the ladies who kept me grounded ( she’s brill). Think u were a month ahead of me weren’t u Rileyroo?

Rileyroo is right give yourself time. Better to over estimate and achieve than underestimate  nd  get concerned u are taking longer than u said. 

Have a goodin peeps x

If you put in disability discrimination act in the coping with cancer area it will come up, yes we are covered by it. 

Evening Nikki:-)

ive been out all day nd just back now. Bless not what u need...an ear infection. Are u on antibiotics? How u doing with the iron tablets? Get why u want to go on the sick... u sound really run down bless . X

Yep, I was a month in front of you time wise. 

Thanks hun. I will have a little look

Morning Sandra thankfully this ear infection is clearing up just feel so run down I work in retail so we have been busy but a customer bumped into me and knocked me but bruised and sore my partner thought it was about time I thought of myself and not what work wants I'm not doing my self any favours been at work while I'm like this x

Morning Sandra thankfully this ear infection is clearing up just feel so run down I work in retail so we have been busy but a customer bumped into me and knocked me but bruised and sore my partner thought it was about time I thought of myself and not what work wants I'm not doing my self any favours been at work while I'm like this x

Afternoon:-)

it’s good to hear yr ear infection is starting to clear up. Your bf is right you need to do what is best for u ... he sounds a keeper:-). It’s lovely hearing how supportive he is being.

Do u think the iron tablets are helping. The ear infection will not have helped your spirits any so the soon that clears up fully the better. X

Sandra is right, you need to look after yourself. If you still have the infection, surgery might not go ahead.