So to carry on this thread, my Mum and Dad were home owners, Dad a Director of his company and I was a secretary to the company secretary at Whesso engineering.  Norman's Mum stayed at home, his dad worked for British rail and they lived in a council house, so we were world's apart but it didn't matter to Norman and I, we loved each other!  Years later my mum told me that Norman's mum and dad had called round to see them as they considered we weren't suited as I was too high class for their son.  I did laugh because normally it's the other way round,  but my mum and dad liked Norman so never considered him as lower class.  How times have changed.  But some people have funny ideas. So we all chose well in the end!  Xx

Dear carol . Back to your string almost , my father was a foundry forman,we had moved three times before I was 7 always bought a house near work,i started apprenticeship with same firm ,(his idea)as metal fabrication and welding I wanted to do hairstyles,as id been doing mums for years and some neighbors,mum had bad rumatics and couldn't sit for long so had to move about alot , she usto own a butchers shop till she married dad, she went into nursing but rumatics forced her to stop working at 55 . Brenda's eldest son was working with me and I was driving so usto pick him up for work one morning he was late and invited me in rather than stay in car,then I saw Brenda .I started thinking of reasons to pop round,he was learning to drive and we all started going out places so he could get plenty of practice,(very crafty I thought) ,I started going round when boys were going out to keep Brenda company. At the time I didn't know but  a neighbor fancyd Brenda and was not very happy with me , her youngest son told me he thought it was really funny because this neighbor had been after Brenda for ages but taking his time then i show up and spoil things .

Enough of my story . You can probably guess the rest. 

Love Billy xxxx

Dear Billy I'm sorry you've been upset as you and others don't need it.  I have no idea what has happened as haven't been on here since last weekend.  I will write more later today and have a catch up.  You're a lovely genuine man and we all think others are the same. Much love to you and your lovely Bren. nxx

Dear carol . Yes it really hit me hard, and real shock, but like others have said she's gone now .

Brenda is still improving slowly, still on about boyfriends and husband's to be, I'm worried about her swollen legs every time i visit i get her to put her legs up to try to get fluid out i noticed last visit her hips and waist is very swollen, she usto be on water tablets because of swelling till we got recliner chair and she'd been fine for years she says it hurts im not surprised her skin is that tight it's actually cracked odd places, she cannot wear anything on her feet as they are that big . sorry for rant,it just makes me that mad as it's easily fixed.

im sleeping better at night now, sleeping in day as well lacking energy again, my oncologist is thinking of taking me off my cancer meds for couple of months see if my energy levels improve, not sure about that idea .

Bella is completely back to normal only eating the best things . went shopping yesterday very windy, didn't need much power on scooter nearly blew me up the hill . couldn't remember what i was shopping for got home and remembered I've a list in shirt pocket, .

I've got Brenda a thick puzzle book she doesn't do them right but she likes trying and keeps her occupied. I'm visiting Monday , Tuesday should here from Dr about what's going on with Brenda meds and any chance of her coming home,(im hoping soon), gazebo is nice and tidy so she can go in and relax and look at birds and flowers and maybe a sleep .

Thinking of going back to bed now, I've had breakfast and meds after all it is Sunday day of rest .

Cherry trees have plenty of blossom,plums are slower plenty of new leaves .

Hope you are relaxing and enjoying sun.

Love Billy xxxx 

Ps wish I could whistle at your avatar , but with my top teeth out no chance.

Dear Billy any wolf whistle would be appreciated. I so miss Norman telling me each day how lovely I look or he loved what I was wearing or wanted to know what I was going to buy next, it sucks all the everyday joy out of life, I'm sure you understand that, I so hope Bren can come home.  They sent Norman home with the most horrendous swollen foot he couldn't get his shoe on, he wasn't like that at home, such terrible neglect on a personal basis, it does make you mad and sad!  I'm not bothered about Jess, she seemed full of herself and I'm pretty good at gauging people but I wish her well, but it's seems very sad from a lot of peoples views as she made an impact in a few days.  It's very much like health anxiety. So many others attach themselves to that thread, what a waste of life, its bad enough having and dealing llwith cancer without wishing it on yourself.  Well I've had a busy, busy week.  Doctor's Tuesday, it seems I may have a large hernia, having been told it was a ganglion and nothing could be done I've plodded on, why didn't you come back the doctor asked me, because I was told nothing could be done, when was that he enquired, err 8 years ago, apparently it was ten, just goes to show I don't complain much I said, he just shook his head.  So an urgent scan, specialist 12th May and probably an operation, just what I need.  Blood pressure still high but I am not worrying about it, what's the point.  This week I've sold Norman's golf buggy, the recliner, his exercise bike and his golf clubs, so enough to pay for my new Summerhouse.  Next door have taken down the old fence and as it was attached to mine, it all came down, so a new fence is being done.  Garage cleared out and car in it tonight but now can't open freezer door, so back to the drawing board, car out, freezer resituated, dryer moved again, no wonder my blood pressure is high.  Wallpaper chosen but apparently its the wrong type, so off out again to choose another one, that should be easy seeing as I've already got the one I wanted.  I've had to re think my tea as I can't open the freezer so tuna and potato instead.  I hope you feel better soon, take care, Carol x  ps the photo was last year at a gay pride day and I'm sat on the gold throne, but look little as it was for the trans men!! 

Hi Billy, Brenda has really been through it hasn't she, I must admit I could have lost the plot many times with Norman, it was not easy in many ways.  When we truly love someone we feel their pain and try not to think about life on our own.  It is getting a little easier for me but some nights I wake up with tears running down my cheeks.  Do they think Bren will come home at all? Ray, Dorothy's husband still hasn't gut her home after her bad fall, she has dementia and she is becoming worse because she is in a room in her own, no company, no chatting, it's very bleak, we said he would be better getting her into a home permanently because then we can visit and she will have others around her but he seems in shuck and is hoping a residential place will come up but like everything at the moment, nothing is happening.  I'll catch up with you more on Thursday.  Take care, I didn't realise you didn't know I'm really an elf, I must have forgotten to mention it over the past five years ️

Hi Billy,

Sorry but didn't know if you could shine some light....Jess the sweet young lady that has joined us all on  this forum seems to have disappeared and then I was reading through these messages and it seems she has gone? Not sure unless I'm misreading. Hope not because she was lovely and we excahned many messages but I can't find her now.

Anyway hope your keeping well today and your family. Take care.

Jane

Hi Jane im afraid she left our forum and Macmillan as well she was telling fibs about things and got found out so she left and closed her strings down, she's been lieing about her age and other things,think most people really liked her and were shocked including me.

Again sorry for bad news.

Take care.

Billy

Oh wow that awful. So she didn't have cancer?! I am dumfounded. It doesn't make sense to come on a site like this, share so much with those of us and our daily struggles and heartbreak and to be lying to us all.....

There was a little niggle in hindsight....she seemed so well adjusted especially as she was going through so much what with losing her Mum and having terminal cancer herself, she was in fact SO well accepting of it all I actually started to feel guilty for feeling so messed up with my Mum's situation compared to what 'she was going through.'

Well its horreduous to do that to us all. I only hope she can feel a shred of guilt for her behaviour.

Take care Billy. Thank you.

Jane