Stay Strong

I have a busy day and come home to my lovely neighbour mowing my back lawn.  I chastise him and say  I would have got round to it, he knew I was struggling and came in whilst I was out.  These kindnesses make my day.  I think hubby is not looking well and voice my concerns.   Nope he says he's fine but a little niggle tells me otherwise.   I get up this morning and he admits he's not good..  appointment at Doctors and he has another infection.  I am being picked up by a friend to go to Wynyard Hall and gardens, the day is glorious and she has the soft top down,we arrive and I look like Bridget Jones after her ride in an open top car!  We have home made cake and coffee and meander the beautiful gardens looking at the pumpkins, sweetcorn and variety of flowers.  I suddenly spot a flower that hubby and I keep seeing  on our drives and it's driving him insane not knowing its name.  A lady hears us talking, takes a photo, Googles it and walks back to tell me, it's  called the common tansy. People are so thoughtful and kind!  Back home hubby laughs at the state of my hair, saying I look like I have been pulled through a hedge backwards,  charming!!  I tell him the plants name, lovely he says and promptly falls asleep on his sheepskin in the sunny conservatory.   Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in soon, I want my normal hubby back.

  • Dear Anthea,

    It was awful news for Carol and Norman, LIke you we had the same news also, I know my heart sank, then I really can't remember.  It toook me a while to come to terms with.  Carol will be back once she has her head around it, I'm sure. I'll be seeing Stevie on Saturday, not tomorrow though, It's hard during the week as the kids are at school all day, then Bree works at night.  I'll ring her tomorrow though.  She will be excited.  Bree will have made some cupcakes or something for Stevie to take tomorrow for everyone in her class.  Not long now till your Aunt arrives.  When is your sister's 60th party?
    A stairlift will make it easier, so hopefully the quotes will be acceptable and can be installed soonish.  
    Take care, Love Sue xx
     

  • Hi everyone, just read your lovely messages and thank you so much.  Two hours until my tooth extraction and Luke is taking hubby tomorrow.  Everything went wrong with my plans but there you are life's a ***!!  Start of treatment for him this Wednesday then three weeks on and one off just like chemotherapy.  No dates for chest treatment yet but seeing oncologist Monday.  Everyone has been so supportive both here and home so thank you all, I will have a better catch up when I feel better, but not going to disappear anytime soon.  Love to you all,  Carol xx 

  • Dear Carol and everyone,

    Hope your tooth extraction went well today, and that the start of Norman's treatment also goes well, with only a few, or even better, no side effects.  Monday isn't too long to wait to find out what treatment they'll do for his chest.

    Went to Rotary this evening and tomorrow I'll watch Eli.

    Take care, and love to all.  Sue xx

  • Hope you are recovering well from your tooth extraction, I don't envy you. Well my plans have gone down the pan now! My aunt was flying from her home to my cousins in Las Vegas and from there a couple of days later to Gatwick. I got a call early hours of this morning to say that she's been knocked over by a man pushing past her on her way to arrivals at Vegas and she has banged her head and broken her wrist pretty badly. She needs to have it pinned into place and therefore won't be making the trip for my sisters birthday. We had a quote for a stair lift this morning which we accepted as he said they could fit it on Friday or next Monday and we wanted it sooner rather than later. Just had a phone call to say they are coming tomorrow! I'm off out soon to have a cuppa with a friend, hope you're all doing ok, good luck with Norman's treatment tomorrow carol. Don't forget to look for the rash! Love to you all Anthea xx

  • Hi Carol, hope you can talk properly now and eat. Thinking if you and Norman hope treatment goes to plan, wishing you both well and all the other "ladies '" on this string of course........... Love....... Billy xxxxxxx

    P.s not so much alcohol?? Although it does ease the pain or so I've been told... X

  • Dear all, a bit battered and bruised as tooth refused to budge and had to be broken into three pieces, fortunately I was in la la land so it's only now that I have pain I'm aware of what they've done, poor Margaret tried to keep me in a straight line as I kept veering off to the left!  Just waiting for Luke to arrive, Norman was in such a state when I got home that he had made himself ill worrying about me.  Poor you Anthea, we get so sick if all our plans going awry, it's never ending, your poor Aunt she must be in a terrible state and so disappointed. Life sucks at times and you just wonder what else the universe has in store for us!  Only a chat today and treatment tomorrow, he's a little anxious and says he's not looking forward to months of treatment again.  Sue thanks for the private message and Billy hope you and Bren are doing OK.  Love Carol x 

  • Hi Carol bren and i are doing OK thanks.. Had a good laugh other day carer went to empty commode and didn't know how to flush down stairs toilet it's old high up cistern with a pull cord she'd never seen one before. Anyway getting it changed to modern one so i can have some cupboards up top to store things try to make it tidy for a change. Always keep monitor in my pocket now so i hear if bren calls. Glad tooth out finally. Fingers crossed for Norman treatment.

    Hoping everyone else is getting some normality back in life?? That much going wrong lately.. Love to all.....Billy xxx.. 

  • I had the worst nights sleep as the anaesthetic had worn off and the pain was bad, I dreamt I was being mauled by wolves and woke up fighting them off with my arms flailing everywhere!! Hubby hadn't helped as when he came back he was showing me how many times they had tried to get blood from him unsuccessfully, look at this he says pointing to his bruised hand, my arm as well he says pulling his sleeve up and look my other hand, I think I'm going to pass out I say and stagger back to the sofa, I'm never allowed to just be ill myself it's a competition!  So the treatment starts tomorrow as apparently no one knows what will happen as its a new medicine and they want to see how he goes, great, more of the unknown but its not going to be each week.  The surgery write to us, apparently we're ignoring their phone calls (now they know how I feel) and want him to contact them, another letter can we make a GP appointment, but don't tell us what for.  Anyway he rings this morning and they tell us his liver results don't look good from Thursday's blood test, we need to see someone urgently, hubby says to them I'm starting cancer treatment tomorrow because I have liver cancer, embarrassing silence and then she apologises profusely.  Wouldn't you think it would be on his records seeing its the doctors surgery that told us it had spread?  I'm sick of everyone's mistakes, if I wasn't in contact with everyone I really don't know what would happen. So I've ranted but I know we're all having horrible problems and it's take it a day at a time.  Anthea I hope the stair lift helps, we have one but be careful yourself as it gives you less space and I have tripped over ours many a time!  Sue, hope alls well and Eli is behaving himself.  Billy you're a trouper as well, always thinking of Bren when you have yiur own problems.  Margaret came with some beautiful yellow tulips for me as she said I looked so poorly when she got me home, we were going to send her flowers but she beat us to it, such kind friends I have.  Love to you all, Carol xx

  • Hi Carol ..

    Hope you don't mind but reading all threads , decided I would like to join the year 2020 sucks gang ..

    All ready for the holiday with son and family to see mickey mouse in Florida.. just wanted a few weeks respite from health issues with family ... no such luck ... my granddaughter in law who's 17 got taken into hospital in pain 2 a.m yesterday... today she's being rushed to London for treatment for leaukemia...

    Yesterday she was looking forward to Florida, today chemo starts ... what a difference a day makes ..  so here I am, alongside all ... big hugs as always ... cancer sucks ... Chrissie  

  • Oh my God Chrissie, how much more can life throw at your family.  Its utterly heart breaking and you must all be in pieces.  At least us lot have managed to get to an older age before we have to cope.  Obviously you won't have much news yet but please, please let us know.  You know you can join us, you've been a constant in my three years on here and your support has helped so many people.  So we're going to be here for you each and every day.  As you always say, a big virtual hug from me to you.  Love Carol x xx