Hi Julie. Just to wish all the best for tomorrow and good result from the scan when you hear. It’s awful waiting for scan etc results. You can’t stop thinking and worrying I know. Good sign I would think that Dave has put a bit of weight on. I too had tummy trouble with antibiotics. Think they can cause it. Enjoy your lunch out on Sunday. I think the more we get out and about if we are able really helps. I love reading too. Helps to relax me I think. Reading Penny Vincenzi s A Question of Trust. Love her books. Hoping and praying for good news for us all. Lots of hugs xx

Thanks Gloria.  It's 9.30 and I Just got back home as he has to stay till 3.30 pm.  I'll go and pick him up then.  There are times when you feel very alone in all this so your message cheered me up - thanks.

x

Julie

Hi my girls, I was going to write today about my trip to James Cook and the outcome but having read all the messages my thoughts immediately turned to how you are all coping.  So good luck to Julie and Dave please,  please let us know what happens .  The 28th isn't from off but so far ahead when you want to know what is going to happen.  Gloria, I was worried about you as I'm Aware you are waiting results ltoo and I'm still sending little prayers your way,  sent one this morning whilst bored out of my head for two long hours!   I honestly thought they were building me a complete new version of my falling apart hubby,  but no, they gave me the old one back!   Sue I didn't get round to writing last night as Faye rang to say her husband said she should let me do what I want, a voice of reason me thinks.   Then Lisa rang to say she had fallen over at work  and ended up in hospital with  badly sprained ankle,  apparently one of her male workmates carried her to a taxi as she couldn't walk, a knight in shining armour, they do exist, I thought like unicorns they no longer existed.  So she's laid up and I'm now only going to her house, Faye is coming home Boxing day so I will call in on the way.  So a lot going on with us all it seems.  As I've said previously keeping busy keeps your mind occupied .  Food, drink and good friends what more could we ask for apart from good health?    So my friend is coming soon, love to all you brave ladies,  Sue I will write tonight.  So funny that we all love a good read,  we should start a book club!!  Thinking of you all.  Love, love, Carol 

Hi Ladies,
Gloria, it's almost summer here but we are in the middle of a really cold spell.  Thunder and lightning, rain and I've put the heating on the last 2 evenings.  I'm hoping my washing machine isn't on the way out, seems to be getting noisier.  We had it fixed nearly years ago and the repairman said then that would keep it going for a while but it wouldn't be worth fixing it again, and it must be 11 years old now.  Hoping your results are good when you get them.  The 27th isn't too far away at least, although the wait is always a worrying time.  Was your hair curly prior to your diagnosis, a girlfriends hair grew back curly after treatment where it was straight prior.  Sounds good that you are getting stronger and getting out a bit more.

Julie, That's wonderful that Dave is doing well, and possibly put on some weight.  Hope his scan results are positive and that they will schedule his surgery soon.  With luck his tummy problems are just from his antibiotics and will clear in a day or two.  I read each night when I go to bed, sometimes during the day as well.  My next door neighbour lent me a bag of books last week to read, a couple of romances but the majority are my favourite crime/murder.  I'm doing ok, and this weekend I'm going to Melbourne for a for a get-together at a club with Neils workmates and their partners.  It should be good, great company and nice food.

Carol, It's nice that there are still some knights in shining armour around,  Keeping busy helps enormously.  Is Lisa's ankle improving at all yet?  They are the things we all want food, drink, good friends and health.  I've been busy today, taking Deana's car to be fixed , then Eli this afternoon, then when Nick finished work back down to pick up her car, then a bit of shopping, nothing interesting though just groceries and food.  I ended up turning off the computer last night with the storm we had.  At least today it wasn't storming, just rain and cold.

Take care, love to all.  Sue xx
 

Hello everyone; I am pleased to hear that everyone has better news - long may it continue.  I had my trip to the theatre despite having not read the original email correctly. I thought my sister was coming on Monday evening and we were going to the theatre on Tuesday evening.  It was a good job I re-read it on Monday - it turned out she was coming here on Tuesday evening and we were going to the theatre on Wednesday afternoon.  Actually I was quite pleased as I had spent part of Monday making up the spare room bed and generally clearing up a bit - so come Tuesday - when she was coming - I had already done everything.   To be honest I was not too keen on the Dreamgirls performance - it was far too loud;  I could not hear the lyrics and I literally lost the plot several times.  Still quite a lot of people seemed to enjoy it.  When I looked up the reviews on returning home, they were split 50:50 down the middle.  Some saying brilliant singing and story the others saying too loud, a weak story and generally incomprehensible.  I sometimes wonder how many reviews are actually genuine.  When the cousins - who invited us - asked how I liked it I did the typically British thing and mumbled something about good singing but sometimes didn't quite get the plot.  Anyway, I have just got back from taking Paul to the pub to play poker - his mobility scooter has gone off for repairs and service yesterday - he is so attached to it he rang the company this morning to see how it was!  I also took Muffin to the common; he is  having one of his hyper days and barked at every person or dog he saw.   I don't really notice his hyperactivity so much these days but when someone comes to stay they need to be forewarned or Muffin will eat bits of paper and anything else that takes his fancy.  I tried - oh how I tried - to get him trained when we first got him but to little avail.  Although the change of dog food stopped him racing around the house non-stop he still has manic moments.  He was already two years old and learned the basics but sometimes just ignores them.  We cope because we don't care and have got used to putting things out of his reach.  Love to all.  Annie

Some days there are things that hit you out of the blue and you feel like you want to run away from it all.  My day started well, car wash tyre check amd up on the ramp because I thought there was still a banging from the wood I ran over  but apparently it was my imagination.   So back home hubby seems a lot better and goes out for a ride.   I decided to hoover up, dust and sit down and chill out.  I should have known better.   My phone rings and it's a solicitor working for my car insurance company.  In July 2017 in the middle of chemo a wonderful woman hit me on a mini roundabout, no one was hurt,  the cars were repaired and it was fifty fifty as no one witnessed it.   I am now being sued for personal injury as she states she has whiplash !  I really do not need this type of angst in my life, it's too much to cope with.  So I  now have all of this to add into the equation, cancer,  disabled hubby, a daughter laid up who I can't help and an opportunist chasing me for money.  Let's hope tomorrow is a better day.   Love to you all.  Xx

Trouble is Annie she decided three months later that she had suffered whiplash so my Insurance company are having to fight the claim which then puts the blame on me as her own insurance won't pay out  it's my fault, so no its not simple.  Even the solicitor that rang yesterday called her a money grabber.  So they won't give in until we threaten court and they back down.  I'm just so mad as it's months since it happened and it's not nice .  Because of her I've had about twenty unsolicited calls from solicitors trying to get me to claim whiplash as her insurance handed over my details!  It's never ending and very annoying.  Xx

Calm yourself, Carol, there are more important things in your life.    It appears that you can do nothing but let your insurers battle this out - in court if need be but her insurers may decide it is a waste of time.  I know about waste of time calls from solicitors.  I once hit a car - not a big accident - which seemed to come out of nowhere.  Long story cut short - it turned out that this driver seemed to make a habit of setting up accidents then claiming on them.  I made a statement to my insurers solicitors and I was not penalised in any way.  I have no idea what the outcome was (and I did not care too much).  It was bizarre - as I walked towards his car the passenger suddenly got out of the car and ran away!    I was badly shaken though - I just could not understand how it had happened.  And I got lots of the kind of telephone calls you mention!  Tell yourself that there is very little you can do about this at the moment which I imagine is the case.  But feel free to pass on any worries to your mates here.  Annie

I've calmed down!  I worked in a Court long enough to be a witness in one.  Sometimes when you are dealing with the bigger picture it's the stupid mundane things that annoy you, because they are not important, compared to cancer  but they niggle away at time you don't want to waste on them.  I've just food shopped today,  and tomorrow presents will be wrapped to take with me.  Faye isn't  pleased that having only thought of my welfare I'm now not seeing her,  if she hadn't interfered and put every obstacle in my way I could have kept to my original plan!   I'm in that sort of mood today where I'm not really into calming the waters so I kept quiet.  It's pitch dark and cold, I haven't spoken to Lisa but she'll soldier on as she always does.  Faye was tidying Ella's bedroom to take toys to the school fayre,  Alfie cried when she tried to get rid of some cuddly toys.   I did laugh as when we moved house the girls were in their twenties and I had put loads out previously for the charity shop, or so I thought!   When we cleared the attic out a big black bin bag of toys was there, I looked bemused until hubby fesses up that each time I had a clear out, he'd snuck them back in the house because they had been so upset.   We actually brought them to this house and Ella plays with them.  So tea to cook and Strictly to watch, I'm glad I'm not going anywhere.   Xx