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I was diagnosed with breast cancer 12 weeks ago, so after 2 biopsys 2 surgeries going to see oncologist and starting tamoxifin i still feel like this roller coaster hasnt stop , i am very tearful to the point you say do you want a cup of tea i cry maybe its because i live on my own not sure, i know to talk helps but how can you talk to family and friends who are worried for you or when you cant sleep in the wee hours and you dont want to disturb anyone and you are afraid they will get fed up listening that you are repeating yourself and talking about cancer , though most times its yourself trying to make sense of it all, sorry if i am going off on one 

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    Hi Liz, I'm so sorry for what you are going through.

    I don't think "a friend" would get annoyed. It's a difficult period in your life and a brand new one! You can't keep everything to yourself. So go ahead and approach someone you feel close to. It's usually the other way around where friends don't know what to say and how to behave. It will be a learning curve for them as well. So be open to each other.  

    If you can't count on your family & friends now, when then?

    But if you are feeling uncomfortable opening up to them, then my advice is to go and seek professional help. They can also advice you how to approach your loved ones. Or perhaps do both.

    Hope that helps,

    Oktay Aslantas 

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    I was diagnosed last year and had 2 biopsies and 3 surgeries followed by tamoxifen and radiotherapy so really do understand where you are. I too live on my own so had times when I just went into meltdown - actually glad there wasn't anyone there to see it. I was lucky that I had a couple of people who would listen to me talk about it and the research I was doing to try and make sense of it which sound like what you are doing. People who care about you don't get fed up listening, they are just grateful to still have you around at all. I'm a big one for independence and not crying but found that it was out of my control and trying to hold it all in just made it worse. You're allowed to cry cos it's a rubbish situation that seems to go on forever and they're right that it's a twelve month journey so don't give yourself such a hard time and work through it. We're all so much tougher than we ver give ourselves credit for. Hope all goes well with the rest if the treatment. Xx
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    I know how you feel and am in the same situation.  I am , at the moment , feeling as if I am being swept along and haven't had time to get my head round it.    I am , at the moment , leading by example by being "UP". and positive as I don't need anyone else breaking down.

    I have , however, my wonderful partner and I can rant , cry copiously, or simply be held tight and that helps massively.  I have hand picked two close friends , who are my pillars and all in all , the solidity of knowing I am being supported really helps.    Let others in and let them help you bear your fears and  keep you safe at wobbly times.    You are not on your own if only you allow others to be there with you

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