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Hi, I'm so confused at the moment. I'm 15 years old and I was diagnosed with "desmoplastic small round cell tumour" (a rare type of sarcoma) and since then what's happened is I posted a picture of me without any hair because of my chemo and since then two of my old friends who abandoned me have contacted me. What do I do? They both treated me badly and left me but now they've both sent messages saying how concerned and upset they are about me having cancer and they would like to be in contact with me, but I left them messages before which they didn't reply to and only now have they decided to contact me. Surely if they wanted to be my friend they would've contacted me sooner and I feel like they only care because I'm ill. If anyone can give me some helpful advice I'd really appreciate it.

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    Hi Kelly,

    Sorry to read how your friends treated you. I know that this often happens, partly because friends or even family dont know what to say at first so they distance themselves from us.  We are all human and we all make mistakes.

    But the there is the other way of looking at it. A good friend would stick with us through any sort of trouble. So I'm afraid I may be sending mixed messages to. Personally you, I wouldnt want fair weather friends; I would prefer friends who stick with us though troubled times, but at the end of the day it has to be your decision.

    Take care and I wish you good results with your chemo, Brian.

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    Hi, so sorry to hear of your diagnosis.

     

    Some people cant cope with illness and stop communicating with you.  I always think of it as a sort of 'if I cant see you then you are okay' type of thing.  I would like to think that they are trying to make up for not being in contact with you and have probably realised how ill you are.  Personally, I have always believed in giving second chances.  Why not contact them and have a chat - I am sure it would be good for all of you.  We all do things in life that we aren't proud of so perhaps just give them a chance.

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