Hi Cazzab

I dont think anyone knows how to react when their loved one is told they have cancer.  I told my husband right at the start - this is what I need from you, and if you need to talk to me then please do we need to keep things open and get through this together. Oh an I am going to need plenty of hugs. 

Cazzab the only advice I can give is talk to him dont bottle things up or it will come out either wrong like critising or in a row.  I must agree though about the pat on the head but perhaps it was his way of wanting to comfort you but not sure how.