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How do I stay positive for my husband

Banjo12
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Today I was told that my husband had bowl cancer and that they will operate tomorrow,we have been told about the stoma he may need and what lies ahead depending on how serious the cancer has got,I'm trying my hardest to think positive and act like I'm strong for him but I'm not,I've been with my husband since I was 13 years I've never really been apart from him and he's never been in hospital before so the whole experience is totally new to him,I just don't think I can stay focused for him.

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    I am so sorry to hear your news, but somehow you will stay focused.  You may have to dig deep but you will find the strength.  You will have okay days and absolutely dreadful days when you can't deal with the tiniest thing.  This is all new to me to, and I sometimes think I can't do it anymore but somehow I manage to find that tiny piece that helps me stand up again til the next time I crumble.

    Best of luck tomorrow for your husband and yourself.  You can do it.

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    Thank you so much for your reply it's a great help,my husband has now had his op,and it went as well as it could I feel a little more positive today as he told the surgeon in recovery to send his love to me which I think is really amazing when you think what he has just gone through I Carnot wait to visit him.we have a long journey ahead of us but I no we can get through this now even more so with this site here to help us THANK  YOU xxx

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    Hi I am so glad all went well and hope it continues to do so.  I too am new to this site so to think I may have helped someone just a little bit makes me feel good.  Please keep me posted on how he does, and also how you do too.  Like the advert says, cancer can be a lonely place, so we need all the help we can get xxx

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