Secondary cancer

Hi ,I have secondry cancer which started in my breast it has travelled to the lining of my bowl with they say is rare /unique, never been unique in anything in my life but their it is ,I was having stomach problems and never gave my breast a thought even though the shape had changed as my life style had changed so I put it down to that and it did not hurt (silly me ) .My mum had breast cancer twice then years on secondry so I have been told mine is genetic. I WAS DIAGNOSED January 2013 still remember how I felt then and it's really not a good place to be physically or emotionally, also my husband and 7year old are living with it emotions all over the place .I have spoke with nurse's, consultants, friends,family and it helps but I still feel alone I feel if I could talk with others who are living with cancer I could loose the feeling that I am alone and maybe draw strength when I have my wake times ,usually when changes are accurring.

Parents
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    Hi Finlay ......  I am so sorry to hear that your BC has secondary spread.   It is a real shock and a bit harder to deal with than initial diagnosis and takes away the feeling that you can put it all behind you.  There are many people here who are in the same situation as you and I - so please dont feel alone.  Come and chat anytime you need.

    I hope you have a supportive family and that friends will rally round to help you.  Keep in touch x

  • Hi  max 56 , Thank you for your  chat yes I have a very supportive family and friends I feel blessed ,I don't  spend to much time going in to it all ,just get on like normal but when things change I get anxious and it overwhelms me and night is the worst .How do you cope ? 

Reply Children
  • Night time is worse for me too and I have been to the GP to get sleeping tablets which help a lot. Also try to read to take my mind off things. Sometimes I come to the forum.

    We are all different - I have taken every treatment offered to me and try to remember that although I have incurable disease, at this moment in time there are treatments available to me  and I want to stay alive as long as I can for my family.  New treatments are becoming available so quickly and who knows what the next year or two will bring if I can stick around?  At the moment I am living with cancer, not dying from it.

    I am not some kind of weirdo - just someone trying to cope in a terrible situation.  Like you I try to live life as normally as possible and live day to day not second guessing the future.  I have met some lovely friends here who have helped me through, along with my family and friends who treat me "normally" . I hope this helps a.little xxxxxx 

     

  • Yes it's how I feel I still have the offer of treatments and as and when I will have them as I need and want to be around for as long as possible, I have a loving husband and 7 year old son who is my world and I want to see him grow and have lot's of happy memories toge