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my husband is in a hospice for the second time for pain relief know he hasnot long to live but was told today that is just a matterof weeks, itsterrible that on sunday is my birthday and a week later our 44th weddinganniversaryand to know that this will be our last together he has lung cancer what do you buy someone for their last anniversary present i dont know how i will cope on my own cant even change a plug or know how the cd  player works i am so scared telling my son was hard he is taking it badly i feel so alone even though i have friends especially one who came round tonight for a while.

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    Ceil the best present you can give him is your time. These final moments with him are going to be hard as you live with the knowledge that they will be your last, but embrace them fully! hold his hand, remember all the moments you have shared through laughter as these will be the memories of tomorow which shall comfort you in the future.  But most importantly take the time out to simply breath.  Breath deeply and with each breath take a moment for yourself to gather your thoughts, and relax.  It mayt not seem like it now but your stronger than you think, stronger than you feel this experience will change you forever trust me I know.  But you will be OK.

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    Ceil the best present you can give him is your time. These final moments with him are going to be hard as you live with the knowledge that they will be your last, but embrace them fully! hold his hand, remember all the moments you have shared through laughter as these will be the memories of tomorow which shall comfort you in the future.  But most importantly take the time out to simply breath.  Breath deeply and with each breath take a moment for yourself to gather your thoughts, and relax.  It mayt not seem like it now but your stronger than you think, stronger than you feel this experience will change you forever trust me I know.  But you will be OK.

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