Hi Ceil ....   I am so sorry to read that your husband is now so poorly and can't imagine how difficult this must be for you and your family.  I wish I knew what to say to ease your pain. Please come here whenever you need as sometimes it just helps to write it all down and there are many people here who will be able to relate to what you are going through. Sending you a big hug and lots of love x

tHANKS max56 it is hard but nice to know that you are all there for me and know that loads of people are going through the same thing but you still feel alone an angry thanks for the big hug dont get many of those nowx

Ceil the best present you can give him is your time. These final moments with him are going to be hard as you live with the knowledge that they will be your last, but embrace them fully! hold his hand, remember all the moments you have shared through laughter as these will be the memories of tomorow which shall comfort you in the future.  But most importantly take the time out to simply breath.  Breath deeply and with each breath take a moment for yourself to gather your thoughts, and relax.  It mayt not seem like it now but your stronger than you think, stronger than you feel this experience will change you forever trust me I know.  But you will be OK.

 Dear Ceil, I wonder how you and your beloved husband are doing? Tough times. Anniversaries and birthdays must be brutally painful...... but, married to someone as long as you have been, you will have created a bank full of associations. A piece of music.  photo. A view. A place you visited together......All of these will be painful and trigger heartbreak..... Contemplating the 'this will be the last time  we....' chokes us with grief..If we love, this is the unavoidable consequence when we are assaulted by the possibility of loss.

 My heart goes out to you..and your son. Impossibly difficult to imagine how those who care for us and love us must feel. I, personally, think it is much more difficult for those we leave.

 I hold you both in my thoughts and prayers.

 Cancer is a thief.....and steals happiness. I have a 'terminal' diagnosis myself and can relate to your pain. I see it in by brave boy's eyes daily as we fight this thing together.

 Know that you are loved. All will be well...... in the end.