Morning Garf

You are right, I did find it and send hugs (does not seem much I know).  Will chat with you when you are ready but take it from me you are not at fault here - the cancer is!  Jules xx

Hi Garf,

Although I haven't been stalking you recently, you have been in my thoughts.

I'm really sad to see from your post, how low you're feeling today.

Jules is right, it's not your fault, it's b****y cancer's fault!

It was good to read you felt that the counselling you have had, has helped you a little, but now, understandably, you feel a setback after hearing of your friend's illness.

You are not selfish. We all know that cancer affects everyone involved, not just the patient.

As 'the patient' I sometimes think I feel less emotionally affected by my illness, than my loved ones. But I am aware how hard it's hitting them, so I can imagine how deeply your emotions must be running right now.

Garf, I've read your supportive comments to Candy over the past few weeks, so I know that your friend can truly rely on your wonderful support as she goes through her treatment.

Please keep posting and let us know how you are feeling and how your friend is getting on.

Sending you a massive hug, Jo xxxx

Jules and Jo thank you very much,

I am just really struggling today as you have so rightly said I have just taken quite a significant step back but I hope to be a little better in a day or two after this latest has had a chance to sink in.

The hugs are always much appreciated as is the occasional bout of stalking

Garf. x

Wishing a peaceful and enjoyable weekend to my favourite - and only - stalker!

No golf this weekend though but I do plan on a long walk along the beach tomorrow afternoon followed by a little quality time with Mr Boddingtons and a film.

Sending hugs right back.

Garf. xx

Hi Garf,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your aunt. What a lovely tribute you wrote about her on the Gratitude thread, that was a nice thing to do and a lovely way to remember her. She sounds as if she was a lovely lady and I feel sure you will miss her. Take care, best wishes, Brian.

Hi Brian,

Thank you very much for your kind words and yes she was a lovely lady who was always willing to do anything she could to help people.

Hope you are keeping well Brian and that you are not making too much of a dent in the world's stockpile of nuts.

All the best.

Garf.

Hi Garf,

Like Brian, I wanted to send you my condolences on the sad news about your aunty. She sounded a remarkable lady. I admire anyone with a musical talent! Such a gift and how wonderful that she was able to share her talents with so many.

I hope you're ok Garf. You haven't posted for a while and I often think about you (my in-built stalker instinct!)

Take care, sending you a hug, Jo xx

Bless you Jo and thank you,especially for the hug!

As much as I still keep a regular eye on this site and the wonderful people here I find it, for the most part difficult to offer any kind of useful help or advice when my mind just "isn't in the game."  I have hopefully been able to help Candy as she is someone I could immediately sympathize with and I keep in regular contact with Jules. Other than the fact that my state of mind seemed to reach a steady plateau a while ago and it doesn't seem to be improving any more I am feeling far from the bottom of that well I was in so am just clinging to that for now.

In the meantime my friend, Sarah seems to be doing pretty well and she is very up-beat after finishing her three week chemo and radio course.  She now has to go to the Wirral for three weeks for more treatment but I don't really know what that entails but I do know she will be very upset if she misses any of the Formula 1 while she is away.

How is my favourite stalker keeping these days?  Are you still having to undergo more treatment to "zap the blighters"?

Sending best wishes and hugs by return mail!

Garf. xx  

Hi Garf,

Thought I'd reply before I head off to bed with a cuppa and bedtime book!

I know what you mean about keeping an eye on the forum folk, but not always responding. I have joked with Jules about being a reader and not a responder! Sometimes I read posts and know that I can't offer any practical advice or support, so I hold back on hitting the reply button. But sometimes, I can't resist sticking my oar in

I'm glad you're not feeling as low as you were a little while back, Garf.

The news about your friend Sarah sounds positive. I hope she doesn't miss any of the F1 - it's not a sport that interests me, but my stepdad is really into it and was able to see some of it in Australia last weekend! (He's on a Bucket List holiday!)

He said the new engines made the F1 experience a very different one indeed! Maybe not for the better!

With regard to my treatment, I'm currently playing the waiting game! I'm due to have a scan on my liver in April and then my next treatment can be planned! A few of the pesky blighters decided to set up camp in my liver, but hopefully, the surgeon can come up with a successful eviction order, in due course!

Well, the eyelids are drooping, the sentences are becoming non-sensical (no change there then!) so I'll admit defeat and head up to bed!

Take care, Garf. And thanks for the hugs! Jo xx