Tongue Cancer - Diagnosed two days ago

Hi, I am a 32 year old single mum to my two year old daughter and I found out two days ago that I have tongue cancer.  I'm waiting for an appointment for an MRI scan and a CT scan which should hopefully be within the next few days and this can find out if the cancer has spread.  I then have to have an appointment to discuss a treatment plan but I have already been told that this will involve cutting out the lump in my tongue and a neck dissection to remove Lymph nodes.

It's all such a lot to take in and I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that in a few weeks time my life will never be the same again.  I have read some horrific stories about what I have to come and I am willing to face any of it so long as I stay alive for the sake of my daughter.  I have only told my parents and one friend so far, no piont telling everyone until I have more facts after the scans but I'm concerned at how far the cancer could have spread.  I have had this painful lump on my tongue for six months but the doctors kept giving me prescripotions for other things which has delayed diagnisis.  I have also had pain in my throat and more recently I've noticed ear ache and jaw ache and neck pain.  I'm trying to stay positive until I know more information from the scans but I know I will crumble if it has spread beyond repair.

From reading stories from others on here and other websites, I'm a little confused that I haven't yet been told what stage the cancer is at.  Isn't that something that could be identified from my biopsy?  How could the doctor be so sure that I will need a neck dissection before knowing what stage it's at?

None of this has come of much of a surprise.  I googled my symptoms of a persistent ulcer back in April, before I first went to the doctor and was alarmed to see the word "cancer" everywhere I looked.  I had all the symptoms but was just hoping I was wrong.  The first two doctors I saw about this reassured me that it was nothing more sinister than an ulcer, which put my mind at rest a little, how wrong were they?!  I am just glad that I stayed persistent and kept going back to the doctor about it.  I don't think they treated it as an urgency as I don't fit in with the usual risk factors, I've never smoked, I hardly drink and I'm not in the right age bracket.  I'm now feeling annoyed at the waiting game.  I want to know when the scan will be.

It helps to come on here and read other threads but I still don't think it has fully sunk in yet but when it does, positivity for the sake of my little girl will just have to get me through.  I would love to keep hearing stories from others or any advice would be greatly received.

Nicola xx

  • Hi all,

    Irene, what fantastic news! I was beaming from ear to ear when reading your reply, I love it when people take time out from their own busy lives to raise money for cancer charities etc. I take a personal gratitude from it. Any fund raising event is great but what your daughter and friends did was extra fantastic! Well done to them! Glad to hear your dad is on the mend too.

    Simon, I hope you are enjoying your time away, god only knows you so deserve a holiday! I hope the heat isn't too much on your dry mouth but good thinking in that you are able to prepare your own food. I must say, I can't manage porridge myself, I really would love to have some (I make it for my daughter in the mornings) but my mouth just doesn't fancy it. I must remember those noodles next time I'm shopping, could be a good option to take to work when I go back. I did try sweet potato chips yesteryear, I found them dry but tasty. I will try them again.

    Guzzle, never been to Malta but heard it's lovely. How was travel insurance? You must be back at work now? How are you finding it? I did google the Zip Wire, looks pretty scary! I did manage the Indianna Jones ride at Euro Disney this summer but I still had my PEG back then and when the ride went upside down, the PEG leaked! Some fluids seeped out of the hole in my tummy!! I stuck to the tea cups after that.

    Jo, I remembered your 'anniversary' must be coming up as I remember it being very soon after my own. Can't quite believe it was a whole year ago! Work plans are for me to begin with one half day a week in a month for now, then build it up gradually, thanks for asking. I met with my manager today to put a plan in place and it sounds like the first day will be an easy one. I'm very nervous about it, but time to try it I think. Two of the weekly recovery programmes I'm doing will have ended in the next few weeks so the thinking is that I'll have more time and energy to be at work although counselling and the fatigue course will continue. It will be good to be active again, both mentally and physically but I just hope I don't burn too many calories, it's hard going gaining weight as you well know    I can relate to the medical appointments taking up days of leisure, it's the same for me at the moment, but hopefully you are able to rest up at the weekends. One child for me is tiring enough so I can imagine multiple kids at work must exhaust you!

    Vatch, I have to say again, your blog really hits the nail on the head and explains everything so well. I've forwarded it to a few friends to read, just so they can get a better understanding. Looking forward to reading your progress, it will only get better from here and pleased to hear you are progressing well.

    Thank you to all for your lovely comments on the photo from Debbie and everyone else. I hope you managed to see the 'tongue' photo. It's quite amazing what they can do! Had a tongue check up today and check ups have now gone from monthly to every other month as I've now passed the one year mark - although only 9 months in remission, since treatment ended in December.

    A meet up would be great if it can be arranged and if people are interested. I'm in Bristol but happy to travel. I always feel most normal when I'm with other people who have experienced cancer, does anyone else feel that way? Must look into support groups in my local area too.

    Speak soon,

    Nicola xx

  • Nic. Just stuck with normal insurance with an exclusion for this condition / e111. Think Simons done same. I am looking at Zip world in Wales for next adrenaline rush. Looks awesome. Malta was lovely. V. Child friendly. V. Hot! Lots to see (mdina lovely).

    what about pre Xmas drinks somewhere? Is midlands ish central for everyone? Shrewsbury/ludlow? IM happy to spun down to London equally. Let me know who apart from me and nic fancy it.

    All the best, Gary

  • Hi Gary,

    I like the idea of a drink together it would be nice to put faces to names. Unfortiunately 'her indoors' and I are off to Florida

    mid December for winter sunshine. Suprisingly (to us anyway) the winters here in Southern France can be long and cold.

    It is good to see that everyone is progressing well on the road to recovery.  Nicola looks very good and I am jealous of her

    rebuilt tongue   I don't know why they didn't do mine. Maybe because they carved up my chest to use my right pectoral

    in my mouth as a blood supply to what little brain I have left.

    Just been for my morning jog. After an hour heart is back to around 54bpm so not too bad for an old git.

    The zip wire sounds like fun, I must put it on my bucket list.

    Regards to all.

    Colin

  • Colin , you jogged! What a guy! Just been over long mynd in Shropshire on bike which was lovely. You and Mrs enjoy Florida. If you ever get back to UK you know where I am! Best Wishes, Gary

  • Hi Gary,

    We are only going to Florida for three momnths.  We go every winter. Only being able to eat via my peg makes

    holidays awkward. In Florida I order food bags and tubes for the 3 months and its like being at home.

    It costs about $1300 which the French unfortunately don't cover. ( I get my food etc delivered free, monthly here)

    Just to make you jealous  - I had a blood test on Tuesday at about 9am. At 3pm  went online and had the results (All good)

    Regards

    Colin

  • Hi Nicola and gang,

    Just back from Spain - good holiday and it was nice to have a break from the normal routine.

    We tried eating out on a few occasions but it was difficult to ensure that the food was spice free and soft etc. Neither of us speak Spanish and we were not in a resort where the locals tend to speak English so I played safe with omelettes. However, we were prepared for this and my wonderful wife made a batch of cheese sauce on day one and we ate mostly at the villa. Heat was not a problem and I even managed a very sort run early in the morning. Fatigue and sore mouth still a problem but these are pretty well manageable.

    Nicola, Vatch seems to be having similar ulcer problems to us - I've put a comment on his thread to try and reassure him. I can remember how worrying such things are.

    Hope that everyone is doing well. Colin, three months in Florida!  Lucky blighter!

    Simon XX

  • Simon, so pleased yo had a nice hol and well done on the run. This is is the toughest excercise to get back to . Think because its load bearing. Have a look at the thread about getting together for a drink lunch. Maybe when Vatch up to it. Colin enjoy!

  • Hi Gary,

    Is the meeting up thread elsewhere?    I would be interested if it is before we go to the US.

    We have not booked yet, but normally go about mid-December to avoid the bad weather

    for the drive through France. We fly from Gatwick.

    When in the UK we stay with my son at Ampthill, so the Midlands would not be too far to go.

    Colin

  • Colin thought it was earlier on this one. Nicolas in! Kids could be good. Was talking nearer Xmas?

  • Hi Gary,

    I see the thread. I thought perhaps there was more elsewhere, silly me..  Perhaps if it is a success there wil be more

    If the meeting up happens I hope you will take some pictues of the group that attend.

    I hadn.t thought about it but I suppose that cycling is a gentler exercise than jogging. Perhaps

    I will jog one day and cycle the next. It does become easier to damage muscles as you get older

    and cycling is good exercise without the impact of running.

    I shall be in Brighton this weekend. My son is treating my wife and I to a James Taylor concert

    on Saturday. Its for my birthday or Christmas - I can't remember which. He is a bit tardy with these things.

    Regards to all

    Colin