Tongue Cancer - Diagnosed two days ago

Hi, I am a 32 year old single mum to my two year old daughter and I found out two days ago that I have tongue cancer.  I'm waiting for an appointment for an MRI scan and a CT scan which should hopefully be within the next few days and this can find out if the cancer has spread.  I then have to have an appointment to discuss a treatment plan but I have already been told that this will involve cutting out the lump in my tongue and a neck dissection to remove Lymph nodes.

It's all such a lot to take in and I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that in a few weeks time my life will never be the same again.  I have read some horrific stories about what I have to come and I am willing to face any of it so long as I stay alive for the sake of my daughter.  I have only told my parents and one friend so far, no piont telling everyone until I have more facts after the scans but I'm concerned at how far the cancer could have spread.  I have had this painful lump on my tongue for six months but the doctors kept giving me prescripotions for other things which has delayed diagnisis.  I have also had pain in my throat and more recently I've noticed ear ache and jaw ache and neck pain.  I'm trying to stay positive until I know more information from the scans but I know I will crumble if it has spread beyond repair.

From reading stories from others on here and other websites, I'm a little confused that I haven't yet been told what stage the cancer is at.  Isn't that something that could be identified from my biopsy?  How could the doctor be so sure that I will need a neck dissection before knowing what stage it's at?

None of this has come of much of a surprise.  I googled my symptoms of a persistent ulcer back in April, before I first went to the doctor and was alarmed to see the word "cancer" everywhere I looked.  I had all the symptoms but was just hoping I was wrong.  The first two doctors I saw about this reassured me that it was nothing more sinister than an ulcer, which put my mind at rest a little, how wrong were they?!  I am just glad that I stayed persistent and kept going back to the doctor about it.  I don't think they treated it as an urgency as I don't fit in with the usual risk factors, I've never smoked, I hardly drink and I'm not in the right age bracket.  I'm now feeling annoyed at the waiting game.  I want to know when the scan will be.

It helps to come on here and read other threads but I still don't think it has fully sunk in yet but when it does, positivity for the sake of my little girl will just have to get me through.  I would love to keep hearing stories from others or any advice would be greatly received.

Nicola xx

  • Hi Irene,

    From my experience the PEG removal is nothing to worry about. My first one was held in by a disk about 5/8 of an inch in diameter.

    The doctor did just yank it out , a bit of blood but no pain. Since then the following ones had a small deflatable baoon for retention.

    They deflate it and the tube comes out easliy.  I now gave one called a button which has the baloon. This has no external tube, just

    a port onto which a tube can be locked. I can swim or do almost anything with no problems.  I change this myself when necessary.

    I have mine for life and apart from the drag of sitting there for about an hour three times a day it has no drawbacks.

    Good luck.

    Colin

  • Hi Irene, hope your parents etc all good and glad to hear you had a jig/drink and you are getting back to work. Met a few people who said pegs coming out were no probs.Im on week 2. Early days but little jog today, little bike ride yesterday. The first chemo last week doesn't seem to have hit me and had a curry last night but not complacent as early days. Still eating a lot so far! Discussed peg with Dr. She said as they were only zapping one side if I couldn't eat she would have me in the ward with a nasal tube to suppliment what I could get down with pain meds but does not seem for the peg in my case. Have been stocking up on softer foods high in cals. Who knew that a can of mac cheese has 400 cals or cream of chicken soup 300? Weight being maintained but at a push can lose a few stone although this would make me skinny? Trying to say as active as poss without overdoing it. Thinking of you Simon. There are people on CSN who have got through this really well and a guy who is just about to have surgery (US site Leo from Branchial thread used for research). They are a friendly bunch and may be able to give you some experience. Rooting for you.

    Nicola you hit Paris yet! In waiting for your report! Colin where in France are you? I always imagine you on a terrace in the South somewhere! G.

  • Hi all

    It's good to hear that you are all doing ok.

    I hadn't realised you weren't having a peg tube! I only had treatment on one side but perhaps it depends on the particular spot the rt takes place.

    Nicola, I hope you start to feel better soon. I too started to improve after 4 months after the treatment ended and by 6 months I felt pretty good. I suppose the fact that you are so slim may mean it will take a little longer.

    My friends dad had mouth cancer 10 years ago and is still doing fine. However my friend asked me if I too had been told not to drink again! Eek! No one has ever said that to me nor to Irene with her Bacardi! Were any of you told that? I don't want to give up my vodka, lime and soda!!

    Keep going all of you - it does get easier!

    Debbie

    X

  • Im sure if its well diluted its fine! It would only have the same Alcohol as a beer? Ive been told to keep away from neat spirits but even in treatment I can have the odd beer if I feel like it. Had one with my curry last night before my buds get frazzled!

  • Hi Gary,

    I live in southern France about 10 miles from Limoux. It is nice open countysdie with a good view of the Pyrenees.

    We moved here at the end of 2002 when I retired. The exchange rate then was 1.6 euros to the £. Its now 1.2

    which has somewhat diminished our pension value.  The roads are nice and clear compared to the UK, which

    is good for my blood pressure. The food and wine is excellent (which I enjoyed for the first 5 years) and the

    health service is magic.

    I imagine the nasal tube will be no problem. I had an endoscope up my nose and saw my throat and vocal chords etc.

    Very interesting and no discomfort at all. Good to hear you are getting on so well.

    Colin

  • If I get over there next year with family will drop you a line and shout you lunch! How do you cope with the heat after radiotherapy?

  • Hi Debbie,

    No one told me not to drink.

    As Guzzle mentioned, I think that neat spirits are best avoided (not that I could manage a neat spirit at the moment anyway). I have a couple of small beers most evenings and they slip down okay. I have had the odd whiskey or Jack Daniels and non-cold coke and that is fine too as long as it's not mixed too strong. The last few days have been really positive for me - mouth just a little sore and the usual issues with a lack of saliva but I feel more awake than I have since the treatment finished. I haven't had night-sweats for 5 days now and I really hoping that I've turned the corner. The mouth/facial consultant looked at my osteradioecrosis issue (dead bone in the jaw, apparently) today and said that it appears to be slowly resolving itself.

    Take care everyone.

    Simon XX 

  • Simon truly delighted for you my friend!That is excellent news. Im at the end week two. Been for lunch/bike ride. Been invited with family over to Munich for Xmas markets in December. What do you think based on your recovery? Doable? I know the worst is yet to come but all OK so far. Feeling ravenous all the time!  So glad you don't have to get your jaw fixed buddy. G.

  • That's great news, Simon. You do get used to the dry throat - I wake up in the night, have some water and am then ok. It hasn't got any worse.

    You'll be fine by Christmas, Guzzle! You may struggle to get affordable travel insurance though!

    Keep going !

    Debbie

  • Hi Guzzle,

    I agree with Debbie - based on my progress you should be fit enough for the trip by December. You might not be able to manage neat spirits or wine but you can make up for that with the beer!

    Cheers (hic),

    Simon.