Hi gerardine

I'm sorry to hear your Mum has been diagnosed with stomach cancer and also sorry that she seems to have received such insensitive treatment.  Your Mum needs to know why treatment isn't an option and what is likely to happen in the future.  Of course, even the best consultant can't be absolutely precise but usually they give as much information as they're able to.  You could ring the hospital and ask to speak to the specialist nurse, or perhaps your Mum's GP could find out more for you - in any case, the consultant should be writing to her GP with the outcome of the consultation.  Also the nurses on this site would help you, I'm sure.  You and your Mum will feel less lost when you know what's going on, as being left in the dark is so worrying.

It's sad that you have no one to share your anxieties but I'm sure you'll find support on this site and others will be able to share with you their experiences of getting information and help.  I can understand why you are crying, you have had a terrible shock and it takes a while for it all to sink in.

Please let us know how  you get on and I hope you get some information soon.

Love

Carrie

Hi Geradine

Carrie is right you need to speak to someone to find out what`s happening with your Mum,the nurse should have given your Mum a number to call I would be demanding to know what`s going on & why did your Mum receive such news in an unsympathtic way.

Drs need to learn a few "bed side manners" & try not to be so insensitive as to peoples feelings.

Please keep in touch & let us know how you get on.

Love Kathryn xx

Hi Gerardine,

I am so sorry that your mum is ill, i lost my dad to stomach cancer in November last year.  It was all such a blur and still is sometimes but i know with stomach cancer it needs to be treated as quickly as possible.

Go back to your mums GP and get her referred to a new hospital or doctor.  When i wasnt happy with what i was told i went on the internet and found a consultant myself, called his secetary and made an appointment.  You do have a choice in where you are treated.

My nan also has cancer but lung and lukemia, we was not happy with her care or lack of it and have recently had her moved (i called her gp) and she had a app at the new hospital within 3 weeks and the care they are giving her is fantastic now.

It is the biggest shock in the world to be told what you have, i was with my dad when he was told  and we thought we was at the hospital because he had diverticulitis, a big jump to cancer!!

My heart is with you and your mum right now but you really need to get some answers as soon as possible and get a plan going.

My dad was unlucky but that is not always the case so try to be as positive as possible until you know what is what.

Take care and if you want to chat, im always here.

Let us know what happens and  we will all support you.

Lots of love xxxx

hi gerardine,

how is your mum? is she able to eat/drink and has she lost weight?

If you want to complain, write it all down now, everything you can remember you have up to 3 years or maybe even 5 years to do this, i am in the process of complaints now i always knew when my dad was diagnosed i would be complaing but now try your best to concentrate on giving your mum the best care you can.

xxx

She has lost weight, but is still able to eat and drink, and I've been relay all the info from everybody here

Im not a doc but from my experience if your mum is still eating and drinking that is a really good sign.

xxx

Been in touch with hospital PALs and sorted a solicitor out to investigate