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I smoke, I drink, I have cancer. I deserve no support

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Ok, so I have been in and out of this site for 2 years now. But I have never heard anyone talk about smoking, sometimes about drinking, but that all seems okay. Do you know, I have had so much support from people on this site and I hope I have returned it to others in some small way, but never have I had a discussion or seen a discussion about smoking on this site. I fear I will alienate those who have supported me or feel that I have betrayed those I have tried to support I guess. I'm not a tramp (although it wouldn't matter if I was), I'm a successful well paid manager. I have or had cancer for the last 2 years and I smoke and I drink. There it is. I don't need to hear that it's bad, because I know it is. When I was diagnosed, I did give up (both), but when I started to get better, I started again. For me, I just wanted to feel normal again, the old me, not the new cancer victim me. I'm sorry to those that fight this and I continue to press that self destruction button. Obviously I'm not that sorry because I continue to do it. I'm sure this entry will inspire some antagonism or self help support, I just want to tell the truth. I'm sorry. Julie xxx

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  • Hi all, and thank you for contributing to such an emotive and honest thread. It's very comforting to know you're not alone and I admire the frankness and openess in all of your messages. Giving up smoking isn't an easy thing to do but here at Cancer Research UK we know that smoking is a massive contributing factor in all cancers and we feel we wouldn't be doing our job if we didn't at least provide you with the facts and figures so that you can make an informed choice for yourself. There is a wealth of information available on Cancer Help UK and we also have some very powerful statstics on our main website and information for anyone who wants help quitting. Cancer Research UK wants to prevent more people developing and dying from cancer and you can read about our policy on tobacco control and how we are working towards a tobacco free and Cancer free society

    Best wishes everyone

    Sarah

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    Hi Julie, I lost my wife Tracey to inflamatory breast cancer at the age of 39, she smoked when she was a teenager and drank a few glasses of wine whenever she felt like it. At no time during her illness did anyone say that it was wrong. The support she had was superb from all quarters. I miss her so very much, but would urge her live life the same way all over again (if she had the chance).

    Everybody deserves support especially you, so you have my total unswerving unqualified support.

    Keep strong

    Barney x 

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  • Offline in reply to Moderator Sarah

    Hi Julie, I lost my wife Tracey to inflamatory breast cancer at the age of 39, she smoked when she was a teenager and drank a few glasses of wine whenever she felt like it. At no time during her illness did anyone say that it was wrong. The support she had was superb from all quarters. I miss her so very much, but would urge her live life the same way all over again (if she had the chance).

    Everybody deserves support especially you, so you have my total unswerving unqualified support.

    Keep strong

    Barney x 

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