coping with death of sister from cancer at the age of 35

My sister died from cervical cancer at the age of 35 last May.  She left behind 2 lovely kids who at the time were 1 and 3 years old.  I find it hard to cope with this loss and keep recalling events from the time she was diagnosed.  She found out in December she had cervical cancer but died by May.  She did not even get any time from the date of her diagnosis to the time she died to spent quality time with her family as she was so set on getting as much chemotherapy as she could to increase her chances of survival.

I know people say it will get easier but at the minute, I cannot see any light at the end of the tunnel.  I think it makes it so much harder that she was so young and left 2 young children behind.  I just want my sister back.  How will I cope.

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  • I lost my sister in January, this year aged 42. She has also left 2 young children behind. I nursed her for a few weeks before she died. I am finding it so hard to accept, cope and move forward. I feel like I am merely existing. I always thought my sister would be there for me and it is so hard to believe she has gone. The pain is all consuming. I have tried to find a bereavement support group, but so far haven't been able to. I feel like I need help and support to get through this, but I don't know where to look.  

  • Hi Emery I know how you are feeling.  It is nearly a year since my sister died and to be honest I feel worse than I did at the start.  I miss her so much and still look at her photos and think she will be back.  It has not got any easier. At the minute I am just getting through each day as it comes, constantly crying.  I have attended a mental health nurse to try and help me cope but I just think no-one can really help - they cannot bring her back.  She had so man years ahead of her and it was all taken away so cruelly.

    The 2 kids are my rock and I feel without them, I would be in a darker hole.  Those 2 children of your sister are the closest thing you have to her.  They will help ease the pain a little.  We all just need a miracle - bring them back but we know this will never happen.

    I have lost a sister and a best friend  

    Will be thinking of you xx

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  • Hi Emery I know how you are feeling.  It is nearly a year since my sister died and to be honest I feel worse than I did at the start.  I miss her so much and still look at her photos and think she will be back.  It has not got any easier. At the minute I am just getting through each day as it comes, constantly crying.  I have attended a mental health nurse to try and help me cope but I just think no-one can really help - they cannot bring her back.  She had so man years ahead of her and it was all taken away so cruelly.

    The 2 kids are my rock and I feel without them, I would be in a darker hole.  Those 2 children of your sister are the closest thing you have to her.  They will help ease the pain a little.  We all just need a miracle - bring them back but we know this will never happen.

    I have lost a sister and a best friend  

    Will be thinking of you xx

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