Oh Jacqueline my heart bleeds for you,

Life is so hard and look what you have had to deal with and are still trying to deal with. Yes, everybody does say "it gets easier". I'm not sure I agree with that altogether. Having lost my father and other close family members I don't think easier is the right word. You tend to come to terms with it better but it does take time. It's harder when the person who died is so young. People also say everything happens for a reason, but how can it?

So Jacqueline I can't make it better for you, I wish I could. Those beautiful babies are your sister, they are part of her and so a part of all of you. Wherever you are, so is she, and always will be. Hug those babies tight, they will need their family. Keep going through the motions, cry and scream, your grief has to come out for you to begin to accept.

I also think we have anger in us and that takes time to subside. And trying to come to terms what your brave sister went through. She did it because she wanted as much time as possible with you all.

Look around you Jacqueline she will be there in all that you do. I do so feel for your loss.

Keep coming on here, rant and rave, whatever you feel like doing.

Take care, Miras.

Thanks Miras for your advice.  My sister was such a brave brave girl and would have done anything for her family.  I feel that spending time with my wee neice and nephew makes me feel close to her.  They are all I have left of her (as well as memories).  We spent so much time together that I really really miss her.  Why why why????????????????????????????????

My family has had such a hard time in the last year.  Within a year my mum's best friend died from cancer, one brother died on new years eve, another brother died about a month later, my sister died in May and my aunt (mums sister) died from lung cancer just about a month ago.  I am surprised my mum is holding up so well but I think she holds it all in because when I even mention my sisters name you can see the tears filling up in her eyes. Things could not possible get any worse.

I lost my sister in January, this year aged 42. She has also left 2 young children behind. I nursed her for a few weeks before she died. I am finding it so hard to accept, cope and move forward. I feel like I am merely existing. I always thought my sister would be there for me and it is so hard to believe she has gone. The pain is all consuming. I have tried to find a bereavement support group, but so far haven't been able to. I feel like I need help and support to get through this, but I don't know where to look.  

Sorry Marietta for your lose and do think she is looking over us all as strange wee things happen.  I hold on to that hope.  My sister's wee daughter is just like my sister in every way and has taken over her role in the house, giving her wee brother and daddy loads of hugs and kisses and making sure the house is kept in tip top condition lol just like her mummy.  So so alike its unreal.

Hi Emery I know how you are feeling.  It is nearly a year since my sister died and to be honest I feel worse than I did at the start.  I miss her so much and still look at her photos and think she will be back.  It has not got any easier. At the minute I am just getting through each day as it comes, constantly crying.  I have attended a mental health nurse to try and help me cope but I just think no-one can really help - they cannot bring her back.  She had so man years ahead of her and it was all taken away so cruelly.

The 2 kids are my rock and I feel without them, I would be in a darker hole.  Those 2 children of your sister are the closest thing you have to her.  They will help ease the pain a little.  We all just need a miracle - bring them back but we know this will never happen.

I have lost a sister and a best friend  

Will be thinking of you xx

So sad Jacqueline, I lost my girlfriend aged 22 years old about a week ago, the pain is awful, can't believe your sister left behind 2 children, it's a very difficult time for everyone but I think you can find the strength to go on, pull the strength from them two children to keep going on. We all miss our loved ones that have passed and is all part of the grieving process, but the support from my friends & family has been  amazing, i hope you have the same support, stay strong! Xxxxxxx

Hi Mitchy

Sorry for the loss of your girlfriend.

I'm glad that you are receiving such good support from your friends and family at this sad time.

Please let us know how you are getting on anytime you feel it might help to chat.

Best wishes

Jane

Hi Mitchy, I didn't realise you girlfriend had passed away. I'm so, so sorry. I don't know what I can say. Take care x