hi im 36 mother of 3 n diagnosed dec 23. ive had 2 ops n 5 of 6 chemo n finding it very hard at mo. feel so peed off n cant get rid of that feeling. would love to chat. x
Glad you are home n op seemed to go well. Hope you recover well n quickly. I have my mother in law down n sometimes it can be hard work! She doesn't stop talking even when I try to write! Bless her. Be in touch soon.
Hi Maki, glad you are home and that the op went well, just take it easy and dont over do things, today my partner and I took my girls to the airport, they are away to Ibiza for 2 weeks, oh to be young again and live life to the full. I was so tired last night, I was in bed for 10pm, my chemo finished in oct and radio in Jan and I still get very tired of an evening and ive no small children to run after, Ive went back to work but have cut my hours down by 7 per week so now i work 9-3 instead of 8.30-4.30, it really helps being home just after 3, I really dont think i could manage full time. Keep up with the positivity. Love to all, hope everyone is doing well xxx
God I dont know how will I take it when my boys decide to go abroad . I think I need to relax a bit, being overprotective is not a good thing.
I will be off work for at least two weeks, I tend to start at 7.30am so I get home around 5ish, still on time to get the dinner ready. At the moment hubby is the one who is doing everything, I am most of the time in pain. The tablets do help but doesn't last long.
I hope you will soon feel your old self. Going trough chemo and radio must be hurendus blow to your body.
I'm so glad that the operation went well..... stage 2 isn't half as bad as it sounds.
Make the most of the next two weeks and get as much rest as possible and try not to worry too much.... I would sugggest you get back in touch with your doctor or your breast nurse as they will be able to help with the pain, and if your medication isn't working as well as it should they will probably want to change it for you, but they dont know it's not working if you dont tell them. please let us know how you get on
Colly... Is it any wonder that you are still tired, your body has been through so much, you had the surgery.... major surgery.... then the chemo.... that is a form of poison (good poison) and then Radiotherapy... that is firing radiation into your body..... it will take a long time to heal from all that..... But the one thing we all tend to forget, (because I know I did) is as well as allowing our bodys to heal..... we have to take the time to allow our minds to heal too....... Having cancer messes with your head.
Now when people ask how i am, i always answer the same way... "I'm still here and I'm still smiling".
I would just like to say a BIG thanks for what you have just written, you have summed up how I feel and I will remember that answer next time someone asks me, as I get a bit fed up with everyone telling me how bloody good I look, without having a clue how I feel. It is true cancer messes with your head, especially when you are trying to get to sleep at night and your body is aching and your mind starts going off on a tangent. My sister has just been down to see me and I said life will never be the same again. I am off for my mammogram tomorrow, perhaps I will feel better after that is over and able to move forward.
Hi Caz, I know you are right, I keep forgetting that I will still be tired, I'm so impatient, just want everything back the way it was before, I want my hair long again and I want the energy back, by the time a friday night comes Im totally done in and because of the Tamoxifen all my joints are sore, plus with the night sweats, Im having a broken sleep, but apart from theat Im still here and still smiling, and being very good to myself, bought 4 new tops yest lol.
Anne Im sure all will be ok with mammogram, I was away for my first one since being diagnosed a few weeks ago and everything fine, Maki hope you're doing ok and dont be rushing back to work, I was diagnosed on 7th may 2010 and i didnt go back to work until march 2011, you dont get any thanks for it.
Of course cancer changes you - but let's make it a change for the better. We have new insight into life and what is important and you can be the person you were, only a little bit different because anything traumatic will change you. i went through such a tough time, which in hindsight seems so silly now. The loss of hair, the tooth being knocked out, the wrinkly lop sided boob, the dreaded effects of chemo and so on and so on, and sometimes it feels as if it will never end. But life is a gift and we have all learnt to cherish it more than we ever did before. I am sorry to hear that my dear friends are still struggling with pain or aches or generally just being under the weather, but to remind you of your words to me..... don't be so hard on yourself. I know it is frustrating not to be as you were, but in your times of struggle you have been a godsend to others here - including me. This thing takes time to get over, and while we have the time to enjoy peace quiet rest and love from family friends and out wonderful forum here, we should perhaps use it for personal/spirital growth and worry about the phsyical as we get stronger. We are never too old to learn something new and i have learnt lots from this forum - not just cancer related stuff.
i have been building my strength slowly and steadily - and can tell you stretching slowly really helps will stiffness and aches and pains. epsom salts in a bath also help before bed time and ward off some of those morbid thoughts. Dont be so hard on yourselves ladies, look how far you have come, now it is just impatience - but a good sign - it shows you are getting back to normal. Just think impatience was one of those niggling everyday things you had before all this started. evidence you are getting back to normal.
Smiles, hugs and lots of love, wishing you all well
Sorry to hear some of you are going through the aches and pains, I to am the same, my calf's, fingers on left hand just sieze up and I have to open them with the other hand etc etc, but like some have said we have come so far and through so much we should still smile, what would the newcomers be thinking of us, as I know how I would of felt reading our moans and groans now with them just having surgery, chemo etc etc, come on ladies start thinking positive like we all did this time last year.
Well thats my noan over with, I have just come back of holiday from Turkey it was absolutley fab, I really didn't realise how much I needed a break now looking forward to one at christmas if I can find one at the right price (I can dream can't I) lol. Have any of you got anything planned for the summer?
I go to see my reconstruction surgeon on the 29th July so really pleased about that, I have decided to go with the implants first as I don't think I could go through any more than that right now but as I'm not having it done until January I still have time to change my mind. I have also come up with like a little spot on my face but it's not one and will not go away, I am petrified of going to the doctors again but I know I must, just being over causious I think!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anyway ladies look after yourselves and you to of course Tony
Hi, I would like to hear from anybody who had breast cancer last year, I finished all my treatment in November but still get a lot of pain in my breast, is there anybody with the same.
I had breast cancer last year - lumpectomy first then mastectomy in May - Chemo then Radiotherpy finishing just before Xmas. I think it probably depends on the Op. I had Lymph nodes removed and still get pain going from under my arm across the mastectomy scar (right side). I think what we must remember is quite a lot has happened to our bodies and it takes time to settle down. It really must depend on the type of treatment we have. I asked my GP how long it will take for me to be back to 'normal' and he said 6 months to 2 years. I know any ache or pain makes you think but I try to remember all the aches and pains I had before all this happened. Then I just took a couple of painkillers and forgot about it - now I stop and think - natural I think after what we have been through. Were you given the name of a 'breast nurse' whilst you were receiving treatment - some-one you could contact with any queries about your treatment? Mine was good and told me that even after all treatment was finished I could still call her if I was concerned about anything. I think most breast cancer clinics are the same so perhaps you could try them - just to put your mind at rest. Others on this site have had worse or better times of it but all without doubt will help you if they can. Please try not to worry - easier said than done - check it out if you can - don't think that you might be seeing medical staff unnecessarily - they all have much experience of this - you are not the first and won't be the last to contact them with worries - they were probably heartily fed up with me calling them all the time earlier this year but they never showed it.
