Hi. It looks like this discussion thread has been going a long time and i hope i will be able to join the community here. I was diagnosed with breast cancer just after xmas and have had a mastectomy last week. I have a secondary tumor in my hip and possibly in my head so will have to face chemo and radiotherapy although I dont know the details as yet. I would love to make friends on here who i can both support and find support from on this journey. I have 2 grown up children and they have surprised me recently as to how supportive they can be. It certainly is a case of role reversal in my house. Chassis x x

Hi Chassis

Welcome to the place no-one wants to be.Hope you are coping with the mastectomy and glad to see you have support at home.I had mastectomy 4 years ago and have recurrance in the lymph glands in my neck and chest .I have been on chemo for 2 years to contain it and like you have 2 grown up children and 3 grandchildren ,so plenty of reasons to fight on.Hope you have a good medical team looking after you.What part of the world do you live in?We are a well scattered lot on here.

Stay strong.

Rose xxx

Hello Everyone

Alot can happen in a couple of weeks hey? Good and bad, but what a wonderful support this group is.

I was so saddened to hear some of the news and then gladdened to hear other news.  Life is so up and down.

I would just like to share with you that I am feeling really good now, so to anyone who has just joined this group there is a light at the end of the tunnel.  I went to my first Pilates class on Wednesday night and when I got home I said to my hubby - did the last 8 months really happen?  I feel so good I cannot believe I was ever that ill. I know I have a long way to go but at the moment it is so nice to feel normal.

Thanks for all the meassages that you have all written on here because it does help.

To all of you waiting for results I am thinking about you and you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love

Anne

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shents anne caz n ladies

just wanted to say im really pleased about results n so glad you are feeling so good. cheers to you all!!

love leonie xxxxxx

rose how are you getting on now? you have been a little quiet. how you are ok. much love xxxxxx

Hi Lonie,

Still plodding on thanks.Picking up slowly since December but no muscles and still trying to put that 1 1/2 stone back on,crazy for a lifelong dieter but feeling better .Scan in 2 weeks to see how this chemo is doing but saw the heart doctor last week and things are OK there now Ive changed treatment.Lots of people fighting my corner and trying hard to keep me here.Looking forward to some warmer weather soon.

Hope your strength comes back soon,you have had such a tough time.Its murder when your mind feels you want to do things and your body doesnt back it up.I cant imagine how on earth you cope with children to see to as well.If I had a hat I would take it off to you.

Always lovely to hear from you,we go back a long way and thankfully it keeps getting longer

Stay safe

Love Rose xxxx

Hi guys thanx for replying, I phoned breast nurse who spoke to oncologist who said I had to remember what my body has been through and that it's expected to have bone pain and especially my back as it's the weakest point. Anyway went to gym for a swim today and feel good. Shents that's amazing news for you, good luck Tony and love to all xx

hi rose

glad things are getting better for you. even more happy theres loads of people looking after you. you are such a special lady n helped so many people on here. i think you are amazing! lucky for me i have a good husband to do most things for the kids so i get to rest a bit. cant wait til i get my life back though n be mummy again. chat soon special one.

love leonie xxxxxxxx

Hi Shents,

That has to be the first bit of  good news I've heard this year.  So pleased and relieved for you.

Patricia x

Thanks everyone for all the good wishes - it was such a relief - but its wierd, I didn't really feel much like celebrating, because in the back of my mind, I was thinking - 'they've made a mistake, I'll get a phone call in a minute to say they need me back in.' Almost too good to be true really. But my lovely Mac nurse phoned me the next day to confirm that the first mammagram that caused the alarm bells must have had dust on it or something....maybe the radiographer was eating a shortbread biscuit whilst studying the slides..who knows, I'm just thankful, very very thankful.

This little episode has reminded me to focus on something my mate Einstein said - 'There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. the other is as though everything is a miracle.'

Much love to all

Shents x

PS - Patricia - how about starting your own thread re your granddaughter? There may be some people within the forum that have experience of what you're about to go through etc. that may not have read about it in this thread. Its just a thought. I know you have all of the girls plus Tony on here rooting for you, but there may be someone out there that can offer some good practical advice for you - and of course, we'd all follow your thread and give you whatever help we can. xxx

Hi everyone, sorry to have been away so long, the days just seem to be flying by now what with working and going to the gym and regaining my social life.

I do however take the time to read your posts and have had a few smiles and a few tears, Shents Im so happy to hear you got the all clear, you have been such and inspiration to me, and Caroline - you are a star! you go girl...Ive prayed so hard for you Ive got blisters on my knees...lol xxx.

Patricia I have tried so very hard to think of something to say that will help you thru these difficult times and I just find myself jibbering and then getting upset so to hell with the blisters Im back on my knees praying for a miracle for you and your dear family.

Anne so glad to hear you are feeling better and I know what you mean about feeling like it was all a dream, dont get me wrong I still look at the scars and am reminded what we have all been through ..but thankfully it feels like a distant memory now.

Lonie hang in there girl the finishing line is in the distance, youve come so far and done so well I am so full of admiration for you.

Rose good to hear from you as many of the girls have said before me you really have helped so many even when you have been at your lowest.

Colly glad your getting to the gym and swimming...great exercise! we shall all be feeling aches and pains from time to time but remember we have been through a lot and these are still early days our bodies need time to recover....listen to me! if only I would take my own advice, Im currently in training for the race for life in Rhyl on June 5th this time I want to run it, anyway I may not be on here as often as I used to be but be sure of one thing you are all in my thoughts and prayers and not forgetting Tony, sara and lilsis and all the other lovely ladies hugs and kisses

Lee xxxxx.

Hi Lee, glad youre doing well, I will be going back to work april time, so looking forward to that to be honest, jsut want back to normality, as def my imagination is running wild, as you say our bodie have been through a lot and under normal circumstances I wouldnt think twice about having a sore back, but now I just think any pain is a sinister pain and im sure thats something that will take along time to get over. Ive been swimming most days, trying to build up arm muscles where lymph nodes have been removed, dont want bingo wings lol. Got my hair cut and colured, colour not really what I wanted but still a bit short to get anything else done to it, at least the grey is gone, its now a very light brown, think if i want it any lighter i will need to get some bleach in it and dont want to do that just yet, what stage is yours at now lee and anyone else who has finished chemo, im very curious. Lots of love Col xx

hi Coll,

I haven't finished chemo yet- one more to go, but i read rubbing olive oil in the hair and scalp can help with growth.   My hair has always been slow growing, and very fine, but i have been using olive oil since week three of first chemo when i was more or less bald. I now have about 3/4 of a cm of hair on the head, it is quite strong too!  The oil doesn't smell too great so i put it on about an hour before a bath and head rinse. The massage actin stimulates growth and the olive oil is (virgin) is so near to our own skin oils that it really does nourish and of course protect the new hair. I hope that helps, another lady is trying cocomut oil and her hair growth is much slower.

love to all

sara xxx

hi Coll,

I haven't finished chemo yet- one more to go, but i read rubbing olive oil in the hair and scalp can help with growth.   My hair has always been slow growing, and very fine, but i have been using olive oil since week three of first chemo when i was more or less bald. I now have about 3/4 of a cm of hair on the head, it is quite strong too!  The oil doesn't smell too great so i put it on about an hour before a bath and head rinse. The massage actin stimulates growth and the olive oil is (virgin) is so near to our own skin oils that it really does nourish and of course protect the new hair. I hope that helps, another lady is trying cocomut oil and her hair growth is much slower.

love to all

sara xxx