Hi. It looks like this discussion thread has been going a long time and i hope i will be able to join the community here. I was diagnosed with breast cancer just after xmas and have had a mastectomy last week. I have a secondary tumor in my hip and possibly in my head so will have to face chemo and radiotherapy although I dont know the details as yet. I would love to make friends on here who i can both support and find support from on this journey. I have 2 grown up children and they have surprised me recently as to how supportive they can be. It certainly is a case of role reversal in my house. Chassis x x

Hi Chassis

Welcome to the place no-one wants to be.Hope you are coping with the mastectomy and glad to see you have support at home.I had mastectomy 4 years ago and have recurrance in the lymph glands in my neck and chest .I have been on chemo for 2 years to contain it and like you have 2 grown up children and 3 grandchildren ,so plenty of reasons to fight on.Hope you have a good medical team looking after you.What part of the world do you live in?We are a well scattered lot on here.

Stay strong.

Rose xxx

Hi Rose

Thanks for the kind message. After the drama of elbow dislocating, my dear 7 year old is, as we speak, lying on the settee with duvet, telly, jam sandwiches. She was throwing up all night, bless her - must have poisoned her with my cooking!
It nice to have her around - she's a good distraction!

Hey Colly

Try not to get yourself wound up about the back pain - its natural that we will all interpret every ache and pain as something more than just a pulled muscle, trapped nerve etc. but to put your mind at rest get yourself an appointment with your GP or give your breast nurse a call. It is a worry that we're left to get out into the big wide world after treatment and don't have the reassurance of a scan that says 'hey, you're fine - go and relax now.' Its always in the back of your mind - 'What if there was one little stray, rogue cell that was hiding when the chemo was flushing around?' If you're the slightest bit concerned, go get yourself checked. Let me know how you get on.

Shents xx

Hi lovely girl,

Your poor daughter is having a rough time but I know I liked having the children home to spoil for a day or two (novelty wears off after that).

I always wonder how many men would have a test for testicular cancer if they had to put their do-das in a machine to be squashed like we have to with a mammogram.

Good luck,will speak soon.

Rose xxx

shents, nina

just want to wish you goodluck. i was sorry to read about new lumps n more to deal with. just want you to know im thinking of you n hoping they are benign.(hope i spelt that right)

lots of love xxxxx

Shents,

Good luck for tomorrow.  I will be thinking about you with everything crossed.

Paticia x

Rose,

ROFL...................perhaps I shouldn't laugh but just couldn't help it, mental images etc!

Hi Everyone,

Update....thank you so much for your kind thoughts nd wishes. My son and I are both bearing up, still can't believe what is happening but not quite so angry as  last week.  Went back to work on Tuesday, body there, brain was not. Also went to the hospice on Tuesday evening to the support group as after Monday at the cancer hospital in Manchester seeing the radiotherapy machines brought things back.  Have to say they were absolutely brilliant at the hospital with my granddaughter, nothing was rushed, infact they took ages with her, playing games getting her relaxed.  She was measure for a mask, which to be honest would have freaked an adult let alone a child. They had to make one for her Piggy (Winnie the Pooh) comforter first before she would entertain having one, which they can then decorate with stickers and paint to turn it into a princess mask. Then they let her play with the buttons moving to bed up and down etc. They deserve medals those people. Tuesday she had to go back for some more scans for measurements and now we are just waiting for the first appointment for the treatment, which will last six weeks.

Patricia xx

Hi Patricia,

There was a programme on TV last week showing this very thing.The mask and the children decorating it  and the process and while the adults were wary of it the children didnt give it a second thought.

I hope you are looking after your health as much as you can.I cant even begin to imagine how you all are,it is just too cruel.

All the luck in the world.Give her a big hug from us all.

Rose xxx

Hey Patricia

Thanks for the update. Things do tend to get slightly calmer when things start to happen re treatment etc. Something else to focus on, I suppose. And as you say, once you start to get to know the wonderful staff that will be looking after your grand daughter, then hopefully it will help you all to cope - even just a little bit.

Big hugs to you all coming from breezy Northumberland. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Keep us posted as and when you can

Shents xx

oh bless you patrica. cant imagine going through this. just heart breaking. thank god for the people that do that job.

always in my thoughts. xxxx

The Case of the Disappearing Grains of Salt, by Shents...

Hey all

Just had the wierdest trip to a hospital in my entire life.

I had a mammagram, then a magnified mammagram, then an ultrasound scan. They were looking for the 'grains of salt' that were found on my mammagram 2 weeks ago. Something that could have been fine, but might not have been...

At the end of all these procedures, they said - 'We can't find anything. We've been asked to take a biopsy, but there's nothing to take a biopsy of...'

'Sooooo, that's good news right?' I asked, a little puzzled, and my heart beating like the clappers.

'Yeh,' the radiographer replied. 'A little strange, but good news....'

So here I am - a few more gray hairs after the worry of the last 2 weeks, but all in one piece.

Thanks so much everyone for your kind thoughts and Tony for your prayers....the good vibes and the big man upstairs have done their bit for me today.

Much love to all

Shents x

The Case of the Disappearing Grains of Salt, by Shents...

Hey all

Just had the wierdest trip to a hospital in my entire life.

I had a mammagram, then a magnified mammagram, then an ultrasound scan. They were looking for the 'grains of salt' that were found on my mammagram 2 weeks ago. Something that could have been fine, but might not have been...

At the end of all these procedures, they said - 'We can't find anything. We've been asked to take a biopsy, but there's nothing to take a biopsy of...'

'Sooooo, that's good news right?' I asked, a little puzzled, and my heart beating like the clappers.

'Yeh,' the radiographer replied. 'A little strange, but good news....'

So here I am - a few more gray hairs after the worry of the last 2 weeks, but all in one piece.

Thanks so much everyone for your kind thoughts and Tony for your prayers....the good vibes and the big man upstairs have done their bit for me today.

Much love to all

Shents x

Oh thank goodness Shents.What a worry but a good resultDo you have to go back for a salt search in the future or is that it?

Have a large glass of wine and a good nights sleep.

Rose xxx

Wahoo!

I am hoping the same for me in 3 weeks or so when I have my scan

T x

Hello Ladies and Gents

Firstly I would like to say sorry for not being on lately but I have been so busy at work and then so shattered when I get home I drop into bed. I have been keeping up with all the posts though and some are so sad I find it hard to believe their is a God in this world. My thoughts are with you and you know who you are.

Caroline I was so pleased to see your post about going out, like I said to you brush yourself down and go for it. How did it all go and when is the next outing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tony am so glad I am back reading your posts you always have so many words of wisdom, we all oew you so much

Well I have some news, I had a CT Scan this week and the results came in today, all is clear, nothing showing in my lungs, heart, bones etc so now I will have to keep my fingers crossed. I have another mamogram on the 16th Feb as you do and then I have my consultant on the 17th Feb, am asking for a second opinion for my reconstruction as the plastic surgeon I saw wants to do a tummy tuck and reconstruction at the same time using fat from my stomach for my boobs. Well my oncologist was not very happy when I told him about this so he is arranging for me to see someone else.

Well all you lovely people I must stop now as I am at work and want to get home so I may celebrate with a very nice Vodka and Diet Coke lol

Have a great weekend

Love to you all

Littlesis (Linda)

Hey Shents, nearly cried when I read your good news. Its' the waiting to know time that is so hard wondering and worrying about the results, I am so pleased for you that they were clear.

Just wanted to sign in and see how everyone was doing, Ive been lucky and been pretty good on the chemo but oh my - the chemo brain. I forget what i am doing, and what i am writing and everything seems to be done or spoken in double dutch or in a back to front  fashion. So if any of my posts have been a bit weird or not made much sense - you know why! No apologies, there are times you can use it to your advantage - like when you say something you shouldn't !

love to all

sara xx

lil sis, you are doing so well, wondered how you had been. What a lovely day it was today, i cleaned all my windows and nets in the sunny breeze and felt heaps better. As I said before, spring is on its way!

sara xx

Linda, without you ladies I wouldn't be able to keep going so it works both ways...you are sounding good and that VDC sounds luvverly...I have a bottle (actually about a 1/3) of JD and open the top just to have a whiff every now and again!

T x

Shents........ Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeyyyyy

I am so pleased for you honey, I know what a big relief it is for you honey.. Xxx

Patricia.... it's good to see you still have your sense of humour in the midst of the darkness your family is experiencing... (i have to admit, there are a few guys i would love to see have a mamogram on there wotsits)... just remember honey.. we will be here when you need us. Xxx

Littlesis.... I had a blast, in fact I am out again tonight... I can't believe how many times i got chatter up... did my confidence the world of good. Xxxx

Tony... everything crossed for you in three weeks... please let us know. Xxx

And everybody else..... We have the most amazing family here... I know without all of you, I wouldn't be the woman I am today

thank you all

Love always

Caz xxxxxxxxxx

Hello Everyone

Alot can happen in a couple of weeks hey? Good and bad, but what a wonderful support this group is.

I was so saddened to hear some of the news and then gladdened to hear other news.  Life is so up and down.

I would just like to share with you that I am feeling really good now, so to anyone who has just joined this group there is a light at the end of the tunnel.  I went to my first Pilates class on Wednesday night and when I got home I said to my hubby - did the last 8 months really happen?  I feel so good I cannot believe I was ever that ill. I know I have a long way to go but at the moment it is so nice to feel normal.

Thanks for all the meassages that you have all written on here because it does help.

To all of you waiting for results I am thinking about you and you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love

Anne

x

shents anne caz n ladies

just wanted to say im really pleased about results n so glad you are feeling so good. cheers to you all!!

love leonie xxxxxx

rose how are you getting on now? you have been a little quiet. how you are ok. much love xxxxxx

Hi Lonie,

Still plodding on thanks.Picking up slowly since December but no muscles and still trying to put that 1 1/2 stone back on,crazy for a lifelong dieter but feeling better .Scan in 2 weeks to see how this chemo is doing but saw the heart doctor last week and things are OK there now Ive changed treatment.Lots of people fighting my corner and trying hard to keep me here.Looking forward to some warmer weather soon.

Hope your strength comes back soon,you have had such a tough time.Its murder when your mind feels you want to do things and your body doesnt back it up.I cant imagine how on earth you cope with children to see to as well.If I had a hat I would take it off to you.

Always lovely to hear from you,we go back a long way and thankfully it keeps getting longer

Stay safe

Love Rose xxxx