Hi I'm 45 and just found out that a lump I had on my breast is cancerous, I had lump and lymph nodes removed last tues, so I'm now waiting to hear what treatment I'm going to need, My consultant has said most likely 8 sessions of chemo every 3 weeks, so 6 months in total and then radiotherapy mon-fri for a month, so i'm kinda in the unknown zone at the moment. Not looking forward to the hair loss, terribly vain i know, but my hair is very important to me like most women, I colour it blonde which will obviously have to stop. As far as I know my chemo will be given intrevenously, so my hair will most probably fall out. I am going to look into getting a real hair wig as I dont think i've got the guts to go au natural, I've also picked up a couple of bandanas to wear about the house. My partner says it doesnt matter if my hair falls out, as long as i'm here. Luckily I've found the lump very early by self examination whilst on holiday and my consultant is very positive about me getting better. I'm very wary about the next 9 months but feel quite determinded that chemo is a wonder drug and will make me better. My girls are 22 and 20 and are amazing, they have read stories in magazines about Kylie, sally from corrie etc and are determined I will just do what the doc says and get better, my partner who ive only been with for 2 years is the most wonderful guy ever, dunno what I'd do without him, he's been with me every step of the way. I was worried about losing my breast, but fortunately I had a lumpectomy which looks amazing. my consultant says put your life on hold for the next 6-9 months get better and you'll never look back, oh yeah sounds easy, but im trying really hard. I hope I'm still this positive whilst I go through my treatment (def not I hear you say) lol, but I'm a determined ***!

Hope to chat to others in the same situation xx

hi colly

just had my lump and nodes removed thursday (12th Aug) so will know my treatment shortly. I am expected to have radiotherapy and chemo but i thought radiotherapy came first, seems on here it is the other way around - perhaps I wasn't listening. I'm feeling a bit daunted at what comes next but more so for the effect it will have on the family - i worry too about not being the glamourous vital woman i was and will that change my realationship with my partner and so on. Although we are planning to get married. So much to talk about! it would appear you will be going through treatment at around the same time as me, so if you would like to stay in touch and discuss our good and bad days, please do !!! my email is simplysara1@hotmail.com

wishing the best of luck to you

sara

hi girls

happy birthday to the ladies celebrating this week, hope you managed to enjoy yourselves with all whats going on. n a big hello to the ladies that have joined this page. i hope we can help you get through this traumatic time. best of luck for your treatment.

sorry i havent been on much lately. i havent been that good since radio finished. i still feel quite ill n have had stess/muscle pain in my neck, shoulders n back. cant get rid of it. husbands been trying to massage the knots which helps a bit then after a couple of hours up i just cant hold my head properly. so annoying but then when you think of what the body n mind go through, its understanderble.

my legs work so much better now n with half the pain. so i can walk a lot more than before n have enjoyed lunches, walks, shopping n a night out with the girls. no dancing for me though yet. yes ladies i went out with my burnt, swollen, lopsided boob n enjoyed myself loads. i had my hat on, no mascara(they are growing but not enough to decorate) n new clothes. my girlfriends are all gorgeous but didnt feel too much out of place. there was a group out on stag do who came over to chat, n bless them, when they heard my news, bought a bottle of champers for me to celebrate. was so sweet, it made our night.

rose its so nice to see you! glad you put a pic up. how are things with you n your family? i hope you are feeling well. i think im brave enough to put a pic up without a hat on now. show you ladies how much hair i have now 3 months after chemo.

sara good luck for your results, be thinking of you. caz hope you are ok after your op. been thinking of you all week. best go cos of my neck, bloody thing.

lots of love to you all leonie xxxxxxx

Hi Lonie,

Sorry that you are still having problems,you are always so upbeat bless you.I,m glad you had a night out and treated to champers as well!!

The family are fine thanks,our son and DinLaw have stopped holding the baby as if she is made of glass and she is sleeping well so that is the main thing.I,m godd,still get breathless and tired and a couple of niggly bits but still get to do most things .Started Christmas shopping,I love christmas !!

Hopefully you will be feeling much better by then :love:

Hope you have a good weekend

Rose xxx

Hi guys,

I got out of hospital on friday

I have still got a drain in either side and if I am honest, still feeling pretty poorly and quite sick.

But just thought I would let you know that I am back and my gorgeous husband is looking after me so well and I'm starting my recovery

I will be back in here in a few days

Can't get over how tired I am

Love to all

Caz xxx

Hi Caz

Glad to hear you are now home and starting to recover, it will take a time but you seem a strong girl and I am sure with all the support you will make a speedy recovery. The anesthetic will take a while to get out of your system and you will feel really tired, just listen to your body and rest well.

All the best.

Anne

xx

Oh I,m so excited to hear from you:grin: Of course you are tired,you have had major surgery and been stressed to the hilt with all the stuff before.

Rest well Caz/

Rose xxx

Great to hear from you, Caz.

You'll be groggy for a few days so don't worry. Let everyone around you do the fetching, carrying, worrying - you just get your feet up and take your time. You'll be back in the land of the living soon.

Shents

xx

dear all

glad to hear from u caz thinking of you love hugs

have my first chemo in 2 hours feeling bit scared but bring it on !!by 2nite i will be saying just 5 more to go

love to all nina xxxx

Hi Caz

great to hear your ok, just let that wonderful husband of yours fuss and take care of you, he will need to feel useful and in the meantime know that all our thoughts and prayers are with you as you begin your journey to a new healthy and prosperous life x

love and best wishes

Lee xxx

Hi Nina

good luck with your chemo Im now on my 4th ready for my 5th in 2 weeks time, and though it may seem like an eternity away, the time does go quickly and soon you will be fee of all this, you will have bad days and good days but you will get through this.

all the very best

Lee xx

Hi caz glad to hear your home. You are in my thoughts. Honestly before you now it this will be all over and you'll be fighting fit. Doesn't seem that long ago I logged on here and spoke to Patricia and leonie, I was so nervous about everything, chemotherapy, hair loss sickness, you name it I worried about it lol, now I have only 1 chemotherapy left and radio but I'm nearly there. Keep your chin up you lovely lady. Lee how are you feeling with this treatment are you on taxotere? OMG my bones have been so sore but now I know to take to bed for 4 days till pain goes away, hope your doing well. Leonie lucky you getting a wee night out, I bet you looked lush, patricia, shetnts, harry, Sara, nina, rose everyone who I've missed as there are so many now, hi to you lovely ladies lots of love coming your way xx

Hi caz glad to hear your home. You are in my thoughts. Honestly before you now it this will be all over and you'll be fighting fit. Doesn't seem that long ago I logged on here and spoke to Patricia and leonie, I was so nervous about everything, chemotherapy, hair loss sickness, you name it I worried about it lol, now I have only 1 chemotherapy left and radio but I'm nearly there. Keep your chin up you lovely lady. Lee how are you feeling with this treatment are you on taxotere? OMG my bones have been so sore but now I know to take to bed for 4 days till pain goes away, hope your doing well. Leonie lucky you getting a wee night out, I bet you looked lush, patricia, shetnts, harry, Sara, nina, rose everyone who I've missed as there are so many now, hi to you lovely ladies lots of love coming your way xx

Hi Colly

great to hear from you, no Im not on the Taxotere- not sure why not, my breast nurse says its up to the oncologist some do and some dont we seem to have gone through the same with regards the cancer and then the operation so Im not really sure why I havnt had it too, hope this doesnt mean they have avoided giving me something that I may have needed!! anyway Its so wonderful to hear you only have 1 left, it should be a double celebration for us as I think it will work out that you will finish your rads the same time I have my last chemo...... hallelujah

We shall definitely raise a glass to one another on that day.

Lee xx

hi ladies

as promised here is my new look. hoping to get lots of possitive feedback, just lie to me! only joking. i hope it will in some way help you ladies. no laughing at earlugs mind.

i will be celebrating with you when your treatment ends.

lots of love leonie xxxxx

Lonie,

What a lovely picture.... I know that you are talking about your hairsyle, but what I noticed first was your lovely smile and how healthy your skin looked.

You look great

Love Caz xxx

Hi lee it's all to do with our own bodies we're all diff so I'm sure there is a very good reason why we're on diff treatment. Yeah you are just one behind me, not be long now, just can't wait for this hair to grow back in, just not into wig at all but I know I'll need to just get used to it. Leonie you look fab girl. I look like benjamin button lol. Tho funny caz should mention your skin, i must say mine is very smooth at mo, maybe chemo is like a face lift lol. We really need to organize a night somewhere and catch up that would be nice. Col x

hi all you lovely lovely people,

i came to see if there was any progress on caz, hope you are feeling much better - the advice given is so right!!! And I half expected to come away today from here feeling a bit blue, but once again, the strength and love that radiates from every message is so wonderful. I get the results of my 2nd op on weds then the discussions between the team on friday so i expect chemo to start pretty soon. i am finding i am getting nervous about that and once again your comments have bucked me up.

love to you all

sara xx

hi u lovely lot

hope all going well.Sara Good like for results xxx big positive vibes coming your way.

hope u going ok Caz thinking about to lots xxx

been roller coaster ride emotionally last few days took my big girl (age 18) up to liverpool uni (a 5 1/2 hour drive ) to start her vet course 5-6 years !!(iwe will b poor forever!) was so hard leaving her but she has workrd so hard and will be fantastic i know i will miss her more than she mises me and i wouldnt want it any other wau !! I have been checking up on her via face book and she is having a ball and taking full advantage of freshers !!thats my girl !!!!!!

I had my first chemo yeasterday FEC my wonderful husband came with me .The staff were fantastic and it really wasnt that bad !! feel bit sick today but have just taking my anti sickness tablets and feel bit better iam going to take dog out soon iam determined to try do as much as can when i can !!!!

i am also going to have alook at some wigs this week with a mate going to make it laugh might go very different !!that should please my hubby bit variety after 20 years !!!! i dnot no if i will go for wig but wont hurt to look !!

i am going to givr myselt neulasta injection 2nite has anyone had i know it can give bone pain ?? will try and see

thank u all again for this place it helps me so much

love and hugs to all

love nina xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Nina well done to your very clever daughter, I'm sure she'll work very hard and play hard too. The injection I couldn't give to myself, I'm like a big kid, my sis in law is a nurse and she gives me mine, it certainly didn't give me any side effects. Hello to all the ladies and Tony if your about xx

Hello Ladies

Hope you do not mind me jumping in on your chat, I have not been on the site as much lately I just do not get the time as I have now come back to work and nearly back to full time (I must be mad).

Caz I have been following your story on here and I take my hat of to you and so glad for you that you came to the decision you did, what courage you have shown to all. I am glad to hear you are also back home, just make sure you take plenty of rest and let everyone else run around for you, rest is a great healer. A big hug is sent to you.

Nina I am having my 8th and last chemo on Friday, my first 4 were FEC and the last 4 will all be Texeter, with all of them I have had the injection same as us all and yes some people do get the aches and pains for a day or two but just take some painkillers, if the hospital has not given you any then just give them a ring and they will let you know what to take as everyone's pain barrier is different. I am glad to hear your daughter is setteling into Uni, believe me the time will fly by for you and her and it does become easier for you, just think on the bright side less washing, less tidying up need I go on lol.

I had my appointment with the Consultant last week regarding my Radiotherapy, he informed me it would be 4 - 7 weeks after my last chemo session that I will start, I am feeling a little aprehensive as I have read and heard some story's about the lasting pains etc that you get, would it be possible for one of you ladies who have gone through of going through this stage to drop me a line to explain a little more about the side effects as I would really appreciate this.

Anyway better stop writing now as I am at work after all, take care everyone

Littlesis

ps Has anyone heard or spoken to Tony lately as I ahve not seen anything from him

hi Nina and all the other lovely ladies

Well done on your first treatment, you seem to have done really well. I had a few pains in my back after the first injection, but had nothing after the second time. I have my 3rd FEC on Thursday and then on the Taxotere for the last 3. I am a bit nervous about the last 3 as Colly said she had bad aches and pains - but I have taken note Colly about staying in bed for a few days after.:love: Keep walking the dog!!! It is great to get out and we are having some great weather at the mo.

Lonie you look great and well done on getting a night out it must be great to get out. I am going to be on herceptin also for a further 9 months after the chemo, how are you finding it? What side effects are you getting?

Good luck Sara for the results today, I am sure once you have them and after your appointment on Friday you will feel better, and well done on the exercise. That is what I really miss, I used to do so much before - pilates, walking and even boot camp! I have been out for a walk this morning and try to as much as I can, but nothing like seeing the girls at the classes. You write a lovely post, I sometimes struggle with what to say you always write something to cheer us up.

Tony - yes where are you??? Hope all is ok.

Dizzy - I hope you are feeling ok after the chemo.

Best wishes to all and keep on writing....................

Lots of Love

Anne

ps I am trying o post a picture not much luck so far

Hey there pretty lady. how long has it taken you to get your hair to this length, I must admit Im getting a little tired of the slap head look he he, you look fab and its only going to get better and better.....well done you xxxxxxleexxxxx