hi im 36 mother of 3 n diagnosed dec 23. ive had 2 ops n 5 of 6 chemo n finding it very hard at mo. feel so peed off n cant get rid of that feeling. would love to chat. x
Glad you are feeling a bit better.I cant believe what you are going through.I did not have any side effects from radio.I used aftersun cream every day.I am going to get a bottle of wine in to celebrate your end of treatment next Friday.you deserve a medal so we will have to send you a cyber one.
Have you coped with the school hols? It has poured here for 2 days.Roll on winter ,we might have some good weather then.!!
I'm having a pretty bad day today..... I got the results of my MRI scan today.
The cancer in my right breast is more widespread than they first thought, so they have decided to do a mastectomy on my right breast, with reconstructive surgery to be considered at a later date,
Also, the MRI showed "something" in the left breast too.... So I have had an ultrasound scan and 3 biopsy's on my left breast today... results for that next friday, so needless to say, next week's surgery has been postponed.
I am trying to stay positive.... but to be honest, today is a wobbly day for me
I went to the doctor with a blocked milk gland and it's all just snowballed
Hi Tony, you made me giggle, i was always thought of as one of the boys till i hit about 21 - and you're never to old to join a gang, just shame about the circumstances.
I too was told today I need more surgery so seeing the doc wednesday. I know we all have bad days and i had mine for a couple of hours earlier. So stupid - went all the way to tesco to do a huge monthly shop. At the checkout I realised I left my debit card at home. Ho hum. Anyway Caroline, I was told by a lady who had her treatment last year, that with new knowledge and medication etc etc., that the doc/surgeons do not do as they used to, they are far more meticulious (spelling??) because they know what they are doing. I know it is not easy, i went to peices for an hour today thinking here we go again, but it helps to remember that we are all in a sensitve emotional state which makes the news harder to bear. i know we also have our feminity (and masculine) feelings of attractiveness and so forth which doesn't help but here are a few things to remember.
If you're friends and family were blind - they'd still love you and never know what you look like clothed or otherwise.
The only person who sees you intimately is your partner - and they just love you - so unless you sprout frightening sausage and brussels in rude places, their feelings will not change. A lot of partners say it increases the way feel, physically and emotionally about their partners.
In the meantime sweetie, make sure everyone brings you all the things you want and don't want. Chocs, bottle of fizz for going home, sweeties galore, books, cosmetics and anything else you can think of. Let people spoil you - it makes them feel good too.
Stay positve, it isn't easy, but we all know the more we worry and get upset, the faster the spiral spins. Let us know how it goes, and in the meantime if you want to talk you know where we all are.
Anyway guys and gals, bank holiday weekend huh? Better weather on the way, so lets all have a couple of days off from worry and enjoy before the weather turns again!
Lovely post Sara and very good advice.I have answered you caz on your other post but hope you give yourself time to grieve about this news .
Sorry you have to have more surgery Sara.My surgery has never posed a problem to me or my husband,as you say it puts looks way down the list when you have faced so many worries.Plus my husband is like a patchwork quilt with all his operations.It is a mind over matter thing .
If you need any dental work have it done before you start chemo as the risk of infection is greater while having treatment.
I'm so so very sorry to hear your news I realise this is a very worrying and emotional time for you, but its true as sara has said the doctors these days are so much more thorough and don't leave any stone unturned, whereas once upon a time without the advancement in medicine and technology that we have today many symptoms were left undiagnosed only to appear again at a later date and only too often too late.
So I guess what I'm trying to say in my waffling manner is this, if there is something there to be gotten rid off, then lets do it know and all together, so that you can nail it and start living again, my prayers and thoughts are with you as they are with all the girls (and guys) I read a very good book recently called Lance Armstrong Its not all about the race. Should you get the opportunity to read it then please do ,his journey has inspired me immensely.
OMG what can happen in a few days. I am so sorry to hear your latest news but one step at a time, easy to say I know.
They can do amazing things today with reconstruction a friend of mine had it done and she was quite a big busted lady and she has never looked back and that was is 9 years ago so think how much more they have improved since then.
Stay strong Caz, I will be thinking of you this week along with others on here. I know it is horrible waiting and not knowing, try to keep busy and amongst friends this week.
You are so right Anne, I have heard the same thing about the new re-construction. When I looked at my lumpectomy scar which is now 17 days old, i was amazed. it is two inches long and looks more like one of my hairs has sat on my chest than a surgery scar. It is normal to have concerns on all levels with all surgery good or bad. I was so panicked when I first found out I had cancer that I was stomping around the house saying I wanted a double mastectomy. My doctor thought I was totally off my head ! As i calmed down a bit, I started to think about things like lack of sensation, how they might look false and so on. And even this week when I heard I have to go back for more surgery, I burst into tears thinking of my new false tooth, losing my hair and not being able to wear the dress I wanted for the wedding as the indent in my left breast would show. But then I came back into positive mode.
My lil sis who had cervical cancer didn't loose her hair in chemo although she have other issues. She and I try all the time to look for a positive in a negative. She said to me, if you have a reconstruction - get the boobs you would have had if you had got them done for vanity reasons. She's right. Whether or not you would have contemplated breast surgery for vanity before, we all have body issues. Try and be positive and think you can have the boobs you want I saw a lady recently who had both hers done sunbathing topless. There was no way on this earth I would have known - she had lovely lovely natural boobs and I was envious!!!! Her sister told me she had a reconstruction last year (due to accident ) and that more than half her breast had been missing.
i am learning how to use henna pens to draw on eyebrows, i am going to experiment with false lashes - none of which I would have ever considered. I found the first set of false lashes make me look ten years younger. Uncomfortable but soon get used to them.
I am so sorry you are having a tough time right now, but it is really true, if you keep lookingfor the positives and feed off them, the bad days get less and less and easier to deal with. I hope I have helped a little. Also, ask the doc to show you pictures, i saw some this week and WOW they are great the ones i saw on the net are about ten years out of date and not so attractive. Stay strong !
hi girls, sorry some of you havent had the news you expect, having breast cancer or any cancer is awful, but if its for the best then having a mastectomy would be right at top of list for me. This wee post is for the women who have been through the FEC-T, I just had the firsy T on wed and OMG do I feel like sh*t, every bone is aching, ive been in bed since friday tea time, in total agony, right down to my finger/toe nails, soles of my feet, behind my eyes, you name a place on the body and its sore, is it just me or did any of you have this? think id rather feel sick at least i can take tabs and doze, there is no way i can sleep with this pain, no wonder they give you 24 steroids over 3 days, think i need 124 lol, would appreciate any advise. Lots of love and chin up girlies xxx
You poor thing.I did not have this type of chemo so i cant help with the pain,i hope it goes quickly.Have you rung the nurse and asked if there is anything you can do ?How many do you have to have?Keeping my fingers crossed that it is a one off reaction.
