Hi Colly,

Well done ,that bit nearer the finishing line .A lot of these treatments give you sore throats or flu like symptoms which make you wonder.It takes a long time to stop thinking that every twinge or swelling is a new worry.In my experience they do not scan as the chemo should have been enough to zap everything.i asked why and was told it would be too time consuming and expensive to check people who are clear when they have so many to check who are starting their diagnosis.With hindsight I would have paid for a private scan as mine came back but I must stress that mine was a very aggressive type which had already spread to the lymph glands. Some people dont change their habits eg smoking ,unhealthy food , so it invites the same result . You are not a misery,you are starting to think ahead .I would say trust your instincts and get any worries checked out straight away then cross your fingers and get on with the rest of your healthy life.My oncologist told me that it can take a year for your body to recover from all the treatment but I think the mental side takes longer. I am sure you will be fine,you have a good attitude.Dont forget worry does not help healing

You could write your blog on Dizzies other discussions site,it really helps.

Rose xxx

Hi Col, Rose and all,

It is normal to wonder - i think that suddenly you become a bit paranoid. My sister (who had cancer of the cervix and was really really ill for three years) said the same. She said that it is probably because we are in at least some control of our lives, making decisions and having at least an idea or understanding what the consequences might be. Suddenly, everything is out of control and the fear and anxiety manifest themselves in strange ways. We are feeling let down by our bodies, unsure of the treatments and how we will look feel etc etc.,

I have been through this too and it is awful, but I keep reminding myself I am being paranoid and keep thinking about the wonderful comments from you all on here.

I had my cut a good three inches today - boo hoo- it was more than 17 inches long - took three years to grow it. I had planned on a perm - just typical. My front tooth fel out yesterday so I had to go get a fix - which means a plate next week after the old root has been removed. At least it will give me a week or two before the next treatments start. I am here with my pack of cigarettes - but have patches, gum and an inhaler because bedtime is my last cigarette EVER!!!!!

i am sometimes positive and shrug things off, other times i get tearful, but as i said to my distraught daughter (dumped by her fella yesterday) we have to keep on going and be positive, remember the old saying - negative attracts negative thoughts and so on ...........

It is normal to worry, so accept that it is, try and put it out of your mind and remember too that everyone and their treatment, reactions and reoccurence or not is different. Sending you a hug and some of the strength and positve feelings i found from somewhere today!!!

sara xx

Hi Ladies and Tony.

Well my results are good today, the lymph node biopsy is clear, so that

means it hasn't spread any further....... the first bit of good news

I've had since this crazy merry go round started. I will still need a

sentinal node biopsy during my operation, but that is still a couple of

weeks away (2 weeks tomorrow)

I spoke to my surgeon today and asked about the MRI scan, next week and

she told me that even if they find some more lumps, they will just

delay the operation for a week while they biopsy the new lumps.

I feel so much better today as I feel like I know a lot more of what is

going to happen, I am trying not to worry about the MRI scan too much at

the moment, I wll probably be a bag of nerves next week on the days

between the scan and the results.......... but that's next week.

Until then, i think a bottle of wine is in order to celebrate

We don't get much good news with this gig.... so I am going to make the most of it

Love Caz xx

Hi Rose thanx i know im prob being paranoid, its as though ive got swollen glands, i had one lymph node affected, but had all lymph nodes removed under 1 arm and consultant said the are round about is clear, but im just worrying prob unecessarily. Thanx to you other girlies too for replying. My hair has fallen out dramatically tho i still have a lot of hair but very thin and can see my scalp, but im able to get away with clipping it up with a kirby at back and i wear a big thick hair band the stretchy type i used to wear as a kid. Ive got a fab wig just not got the guts to wear it yet. I dont smoke and havent drank since starting chemo as it tastes like metal lol plus im trying to be a healthy bunny, my downfall is chocolate, which cancer loves seemingly, dunno if thats been proven or if its an old wives tail. Sorrry about your daughter being dumped, my daughter dumped her fella last week and she feels bad but it was for the best, shes only 20 and been with him since she was 16, so although she misses him she knows its for the best. Enjoy your wine caroline.Thanks again girlies xx

Hi Caz,

That is fantastic news...I love the glass half full approach (especially with wine in it, sorry poor joke )

I don't feel all of us on here are strangers as we share some of our deepest darkest thoughts and I for one have made some great friends on here.

Stay cool, there are some tough times ahead but you will get through it...it is great having a supportive family and a group of people that have been where you are going... I found that at times I didn't want to upset my family and its not that they don't understand just that this is different and you need different areas of support.

Enjoy that wine...hope its a good red as allegedly cancer hates red wine or at least the red grapes that are in it...so it is medicinal after all.

Much Love

Tony xx

Colly,

I am so sorry that you're having such a bad day honey, you are so far in front of me with your treatment you can rest assured that as my treatment progresses, I will be turning to you and all the others that have been through it all before me for support.

To me, one of the best things about this site is that we can all support each other when we have bad days... You never have to go through anything alone if you don't want to.

I am going to make the most of a nice glass of wine while I can still enjoy it.

If you are worried about the chocolate then ask your doctor or nurse, they will tell you... I must admit I've never heard of cancer and chocolate being linked (but I might be wrong) at least if they tell you it's ok to eat chocolate you can treat yourself without worry.

My biggest fear is losing my hair as it's below my waist.... but I will face that problem when I get to it.

I have got aches and pains all over, especially in my other breast (my good one) but I try not to think about it because it would drive me mad with worry, and I think this is a hard enough road we are on already

Today I am having a good day.... I hope you have a better day tomorrow honey

Love Caz xxx

Hi Tony,

Thanks, I agree that we do have times when, as much as our family are brilliant and supportive, sometimes we need to talk to people going through the same dark thoughts we are going through ourselves.

And yes, it is a red wine.... and that is good news about it being medicinal

Love Caz xx

hi ladies.

sorry ive not been on for a while, ive been checking the post but had a lot happening. i'm glad this page is helping all the newbies, makes me feel a lot better. colly, i'm sorry to hear that you're feeling down and worried about whats to come. what helped me was tackling everything one stage at a time. dont think about whats to come, you've still got a lot to go through, so day by day, step by step. and i love the way the new ladies have got these words of wisdom to help us all. its as if theyve been there from the first post!

actually had a really nice weekend. had one of jons friends from essex down for the weekend n it was a right laugh! also had family down from leicester so had a bbq down beach on saturday with a glass of wine or two! then went out for a meal on sunday with them all, really had a nice time. so nice to have a nortmal weekend when everything werent about cancer.

this week has been harder. had radio cancelled twice, got to go sat as well now, and one added at the end! great! had mri scan today due to right eye playing up, took hour and a half with the little man being a ******. something else to worry about!

really worried about lou, not heard from her in such a long time. if youre reading this let us know how you are. and lee hope youre ok darling. dont like not hearing from you for a while, gets me all worried! and i know things arent great, got enough worry already without worrying about my cyber buddies!!! one day we'll make it real buddies.

as for you new ladies, bless your heart for having to go through all this but your positivity is just amazing. i raise a glass to you all. sometimes the odd glass is a much needed tonic! can make you feel so much better, but not too much eh.

at last i know what chemo i was on! hurrah! it was docetaxel and carboplatin. lovely stuff! big bags as well, even the nurses said. but if it makes me better, then it is all worth it.

i hope rose is enjoying her wonderful new grandchild and cherishing every moment. i hope patricia is enjoying her new sick note, and much needed rest and normality. thinking of both of you and sending you my love. tony, youre a star as always. what a diamond you are. thankyou for pointing more ladies our way, any help we can all be makes us all feel so much better. and its nice to worry about someone else for a change! ha ha.

my lovely husband has been writing this for me.

lots of love to you all, my wishes and thoughts are with you.

leonie xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Leonie, thought the spelling was too good for you lol, only joking babes, thats lovely of Jon to type your message for you. Glad you had a lovely time with your friends and relatives, its nice to just chill out and not think of whats happening to yourself. Im feeling fine and yes i need to take one day at a time. The new ladies are such an inspitation to us too, worrying about hairloss all the things that we were all worried about, hairloss to me was the biggest hurdle to cross and to be honest still is, i feel so unattractive, just cant get into the wig but i'll have to if i want to go out and about as seeing my scalp may put people off their dinner lol, at the mo still wearing the scarves in the house and my skip cap when im out at shops etc. I still have quite a lot of hair and nurses are amazed how much ive left, but its thin and wispy, a bit like a babies hair where you can see their scalp and when they wake up in the morn its all sticking up lol well thats my hair. Anyway i'll get away and tidy up a bit. Hope everyone is well. Col xx