hi im 36 mother of 3 n diagnosed dec 23. ive had 2 ops n 5 of 6 chemo n finding it very hard at mo. feel so peed off n cant get rid of that feeling. would love to chat. x
Your story sound identical to mine - I too will require a reduction in the good breast once all is clear and the other breast has settled, I actually feel a little guilty at looking forward to having small pert breasts( gosh is that so wrong?) The chemo still feels so unreal at the moment and I keep running my fingers through my hair wondering what it will feel like to be bald, well I shall take each day 1 day at a time for now, thanks for your message and keep well,
i agree what a beautiful lady you are n a personality to match. what an awful time for you n your new hub. my heart goes out to you both.
i felt i'd cheated my hub, what a nightmare for him to sort out n cope with. but we cant help being ill, thing is, they cant too. its a horrible cycle but gets easier in time. n my hub still fancies me. bald n all! n tells me hes still glad he married me. its so hard for them cos they just want to help n dont want to see us so down. bless em'.
look forward to talking to you, though sorry at the same time. head up lovely lady.
Hi Lee i too had beautiful long blonde hair, but recently got it cut short as i know over the next 2-3 weeks my hair will start to fall out, i just had my first chemo session on wednesday passed, felt sick the day after but feel ok yest and today. I had a lumpectomy and all lymph nodes removed in may. Ive only been with my partner just under 2 years and he has been amazing, with me every step of the way, he obviously has his bad days too but he knows if the tables were turned, id be by his side holding his hand too, as for my breast well it doesnt look too bad at all, 2 scars which will disappear and john says its part of my journey and at least im here alive and well, i've picked a lovely long blonde wig and there are loads out there to choose from, i got a couple of really nice skip hats from monsoon, so as much as im dreading the hair loss process and i know will never have the guts to get it shaved the way some women can, i know once it grows back in i can start colouring it again and getting my life back, as my consultant says, take 9 months out your life and get better and thats what i intend to do, keep posting your story on here as we love to read them. Take care Col x
Being able to talk to people is helping me immensely and you are all so strong it makes me feel humble talking to you all,
At the moment it still feels a little surreal, like any minute i will wake up and it will all just be one horrible long nightmare. Its the kind of thing you read about but never actually believe it will happen to you!
My husband is really glad I have you guys to talk to and has noticed a definite improvement in my outlook, he says whether I like it or not he will shave off all his hair when I go bald, and this is not for my benefit but his, I have tried to explain to him that this is not necessary but I guess if this helps him cope then I should respect that.
Well I'm off to have some lunch now England are playing today and I reckon I wont need to worry about the chemo at the end as I will have pulled all my hair out if they don't win he he.
All the very best to you Lonie and everyone else going through this.
thanks for your lovely reply, I shall be following your journey closely as you are only a couple of weeks ahead of me and if you can provide any tips of what may help both my husband and I get through this then I shall be forever grateful, you sound very strong and determined I hope one day to be just like you, maybe the hair cut is the start of me taking back control, I have an appointment on Monday with the wig lady so am hopeful to find something that will get me through the next few months, I guess the vanity thing is there but my pride is far worse, I cant bare the thought of people looking at me with sympathy in their eyes and as I live in a small village everyone knows everyone and will be almost impossible to hide this.
Well Im off to make some lunch as its England playing Germany today and as I mentioned to Lonie If they don't win I shall pull my hair out anyway he he
I have been reading all post related to chemo recently. I had a lumpectomy with all Lymph nodes taken out then had to have a mastectomy. I see the oncologist tomorrow about the rest of my treatment which my consultant tells me will include chemo and radiotherpy. I was just shocked to read that some of you are having up to 9 months treatment. I really never thought it would go on so long. I know at 62 I should not be so worried about my appearance but I am - at my age you are always trying to hold back the years anyway. At least younger women have a prettier unlined face so may not look so bad bald - I will look terrible!! and now think its will be for much longer than I thought. Does everyone have this treatment for sooo long?
Hi Lee, I know what you mean about people looking at you, I'm a very confident person at the best of times, but the thought of people staring at me feeling sorry for me just makes me feel terrible. Obviously the nurses say that my eyelashes which are really long and my eyebrows may fall out too, i'll just need to get used to wearing false lashes lol. We've just been out for a lovely carvery after watching the footie, we're scottish but england were doomed right from the start, never mind its only a game. anyway, yeah your right im not far ahead of you, but we'' be fine, dont be fooled im not that strong, ive been having low days too, but i know i'll be fine, its the boredom mostly during week when everybody is it work and im stuck at home, anyway enjoy the rest of your evening. lots of love. Col x
Hi my chemo will last for 24 weeks thats 1 session every 3 weeks x 8 sessions, then 1 month off then 1 month radio, so although i said 9 months i just mean for total recovery, chemo is usually about 6 months and radio 1 month, by the time i take a lovely holiday and get back to work it will be 9 months. I'm sure none of us will look gorgeous bald, but a little bit more foundation, blusher and lippy and we'll be fine, get yourself a lovely wig and some nice scarves and you'll be fine. Hope your ok and keep posting. Col x
Sorry to hear that you have joined our club. Sounds like everything has happened quickly for you and your still reeling from everything. You had a wedding to plan which, of course, kept you occupied. Then you went on your honeymoon, followed by a major operation. So it's no surprise that you have been getting emotional and crying as things have slowed down your brain has kicked in and the shock of it all has hit you. I was a bit like that myself, I had a lumpectomy at the end of November 2009, and had to decide if I wanted my mastectomy the week before Christmas or the beginning of January, I opted for January. So, of course, I was preoccupied with Christmas and New Year and it wasn't until later that it all hit me.
Good luck with the chemo. I'm not going to lie, it is hard but doable. I have just finished mine, so any questions just ask. I start my radiotherapy tomorrow for three weeks, bit apprehensive as it's another case of into the unknown but I will certainly be ticking off those days on my calendar.
Hairloss is a big thing, so don't feel like you have to be brave. I normally have short hair and to be honest thought I would be able to cope no problem, how wrong I was. I did make the decision not to go down the wig route but have worn bandanas and scarves which I have made myself. Once my hair started to thin I became very self conscious, then I noticed that I would walk around head down trying not to have eye contact with anyone. My biggest revelation came when I realise that the feeling I was having was shame, I was ashamed that I had got cancer! Once I realised this I thought 'sod it, I have nothing to be ashamed of' and from that moment on I have walked around with my head held high and looked everyone in the eye. It has definately done my confidence the world of good and I can honestly say that I don't feel I have had pitying looks or people down right staring. My hair is just starting to sprout, if you can call it that, it's more bum fluff really LOL.
So chin up, we are all with you and here for you for just a chat or support.
Good luck for tomorrow. More of into the unknown, don't know about you but will be glad to get the first one over and be able to start ticking that calendar!
