Hi Lou67 I am sorry to read about your diagnosis.  I have stage 4 breast cancer and have mets in pelvis, hips, spine, ribs and skull.  I was diagnosed in September 2024. It certainly is very scary and so much more so in the beginning.  My first oncology appointment he asked me what I knew about my cancer.  I said I know it is terminal.  He said no it is not terminal it is incurable but it is treatable.  As time has gone on it has got easier and I now realise I can live a good life for many years to come.  In the beginning I had counselling that Macmillan organised for me.  There are a lot of cancer charities out there with help available.  Maggies is a good one and Penny Brohn.  It is definitely good to speak to someone who is impartial and that way you can say what you feel in a safe space like on here.  I am on the Macmillan website.  There is a forum called Living with incurable cancer forum - patients only.  I am pretty sure there is someone on there who has the same cancer as you.  It is good to talk to people who understand.  I am happy to chat anytime.

Lee x