Cancer Research UK main site
  • Replies 2 replies
  • Views 139 views
  • Users 0 members are here

Life - my other half just told me he needs to see the same consultant I do. I'm still recovering from my cancer journey. Is it wrong to feel aggrieved?

MrsBlueSky
Offline

My other half has just said he needs to book an appointment with the same Consultant I went to. 

After an operation in January, mine turned out to be T2N0M0 Bowel Cancer.  I am still recovering getting to grips with the stoma and waiting for a reversal.

He said he was going to wait until I was sorted- but ....

My gripe is that he has had the same 'symptoms' for well over a year, but now while I am still recovering these 'symptoms' are suddenly important.

Am I wrong to feel aggrieved?  I am worried that he has left things too long.  How am I going to cope with his care?   He is the cook in the family.

I am only just starting to be able to care for myself.

I'm always a glass half empty type of person.  Now there is nothing in it at all.

Sorry for being so self pitying.

  • Offline

    Heya and welcome. Try asking him to give a reason as to why he wants to see the specialist. Perhaps he is worried about his own general health. If so I’d call the helpline to talk to a nurse. The number is 0808 800 4040. It is a free phone number. 

  • Hi bluesky

    I hope your recovery is going well and you will soon have your stoma reversed.Your OH is doing the right thing getting himself checked out, timing in life is never perfect. The outcome could be just fine. As you recover you could occupy your time learning to cook, it is great fun plus you get to choose whats for dinner. Cancer can drag your spirits down so you are allowed to be self pitying but it is only you that can change that. If you dont already, try to get some excercise each day if only a short walk, it really helps. Try to visit friends and family social contact is very important. Have a phone chat with the experienced nurses here who can offer expert kind advice.

    Ed

Speak to a nurse

Quick links

Follow us

Registered with Fundraising Regulator (logo)
Cancer Research UK is a registered charity in England and Wales (1089464), Scotland (SC041666), the Isle of Man (1103) and Jersey (247). A company limited by guarantee. Registered company in England and Wales (4325234) and the Isle of Man (5713F). Registered address: 2 Redman Place, London, E20 1JQ.