Hi Tina, I am really sorry to hear people have distanced themselves from you just when you need them the most. I’ve had this experience myself (I’m currently on my 5th cancer journey) so I know what you’re going through. Sadly some people simply cannot cope with what is happening to you so they choose to distance themselves.  Cancer can certainly show who your real friends are. You need to concentrate solely on yourself now. My personal opinion is that the very word cancer scares people to a point where they just shutdown and pretend it’s not happening. It’s not nice and it’s not right but it probably won’t change. If they lose your friendship that is their loss and they will have to deal with their nagging conscience for a very long time. I am very careful who I allow into my life now and, sadly, even those I allow in are held at arms length. It’s my way of protecting myself. 

I think that just that word "cancer" makes people think you are going to die

But I just don't understand why they would distance themselves when they can see that you are struggling to come to terms with it 

When I had my surgery and came home I had no visitors, it was just me and my dog, who has been lovely and definitely mans best friend, she's the only 1 I can rely on, but what you said is true you certainly find out who real friends are at a time like this  and the realisation is I don't have any 

I think that just that word "cancer" makes people think you are going to die

But I just don't understand why they would distance themselves when they can see that you are struggling to come to terms with it 

When I had my surgery and came home I had no visitors, it was just me and my dog, who has been lovely and definitely mans best friend, she's the only 1 I can rely on, but what you said is true you certainly find out who real friends are at a time like this  and the realisation is I don't have any