I have found the varying reactions of my friends very interesting. My immediate family, wife and two daughters, have been amazing - supportive, empathetic and caring. Others, some have been good, regularly asking how I’m getting on and asking, sone have avoided any contact almost as if having lung cancer is contagious! Also, I do get sick of people saying “you look so well”, as if my cancer is fictitious! I guess they are trying to be positive but ask me how I feel don’t tell me. aAlso, it seems like everybody knows somebody else who has cancer and needs to tell me about them!
Same here. I've now stopped telling people what's the matter with me. I don't need their pity and words 'let me know if you need anything' are total rubbish in my eyes. of course I'm not going to let them know. I said to a few people to call me if they really want to know what I'm going through rather than expecting me to let them know all the updates! I put on a brave face too, every day - it's draining. And all I need sometimes is only a hug.
Sounds very similar. People always say 'let me know if you need anything' knowing full well I'm never going to ask. The other thing I seem to get is people always seem to know someone who has gone tough Chemo. Ive had 'it's not too bad is it?' uh yeah, it's bloody horrible and draining, but again I put on that brave face and get on with it. You are absolutely right, it's draining - think I'm going to go live on a farm in the middle of nowhere when this is all over!
I live on a farm in the middle of nowhere and experienced the same .You see who your real friends are .After op and chemo I had quite a few visitors regarding doing anything for you very little hap ned. you just don’t like to ask for hello do you.. when people say you look really well. Do you feel like telling them? There’s anything wrong with my face! Keep going and all the best xxx
