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I have stage 4, which I got diagnosed last year. I have 3 kids (2adults and 1 8 yr old) I'm so scared of leaving them

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It breaks my heart thinking about this but this is all I seem to do. 
im not fun anymore like I used to be.  
please tell me there's others like this? I just seemed to have changed. 
I had chemo last year, seem to have worked. I had a break, so I could do stuff and summer holidays and Christmas. but I had to get radiotherapy in December. then went for a scan this year, so I'm not back on chemo. 

im just so sad

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    So I'm back on chemo, 

    infusion and chemo tablets on in the night. My top body is so sore 

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    Hi Marie74, I'm sorry to read your post about how you're feeling,  I've recently had my triple negative breast cancer return after having it twice before and now I'm classed as treatable but can't be cured,  I too am sick with worry about leaving my  partner and 3 daughters and 2 grandchildren I think that's the worst thing about it all,  I'm just hoping and praying for a miracle,  sending special thoughts and prayers to you x

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    Hi Marie,

    You’d be a weird sort of person if this wasn’t getting you down!
    The movies and TV have a lot to answer for.

    They almost always show cancer patients as perky heroes who face all their hardships with witty good humour and an “I’ll never let this get me down” attitude.

    That’s pure Hollywood (I’d use a different word if the forum rules allowed it!). 

    I’m sure you put a brave face on in front of your kids but I know from personal experience how utterly scary your journey can be - day in, day out. That’s why so many survivors go on to develop PTSD - it can be very traumatic. 

    Try to distract yourself and concentrate on the fact that every day with your family is a valuable gift. This may sound trite, but it helped get me through the chemo. That and encouragement from my wife and family not to give up and see the treatment through to the end.

    I don’t believe in miracles but, statistically, there are always people whose outcomes are better than average. Occasionally some of us are exceptionally lucky - as I have been.

    Good luck!
    Dave

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    I have breast cancer and my biggest worry is leaving my family behind to manage without me. Its every good Mums worse nightmare. I just pray for as much time as possible. How else can we cope? New medicines come every month too. All we can do is hang in there

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    Lainey35 , thats so true,  its not all about us it's the ones that we love and care about going through it with us, I'm starting my treatment tomorrow,  praying it does something and sending prayers and hope to you too xx

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