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My husband is upset I told a friend of ours I have cancer.

Sausage1
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I have just been given a ticking off from my husband who is angry that I told a friend of his that I have cancer.

I met his friend by chance at the petrol station when he said hello and commented I had lost a bit of weight and that I looked great as he thought last time he saw us in the street last year he thought I did not look too well.

So out it came.....I'm afraid I look better than I am as I have cancer but getting on with it

This happened a couple of weeks ago.

This  week I have been told that my cancer has moved from right breast to left after being given the all clear this  year in May that it was a low grade very small tumour in my right breast and not a concern.

I don't understand why my husband is berating me with " Oh I saw X today and he told me that you told him your story"

I feel husband is not empathetic and tells me to stop being morbid.

Should I just tell everyone I meet who tells me how good I look that all is well?

 

 

  • Offline in reply to Sausage1

    Hi,

    I might do that. I've had one meeting with the oncologist . I just think he was used to someone asking so many questions but that's who I am. 
     

    I meet with him again on 25th November and will give him another chance, in between I will phone and ask a few questions regarding procedures on treatment re my situation. 

  • Offline in reply to cath04

    Hi Cath

    You have a bit of time to do your listing of questions needing answered.

    To get things moving along decide which GP is going to be your conduit for information between you and the consultants.

    Your main concern was the conflicting information you think you may have been given and this is the opportunity to get it clarified via the GP who if he/she does not have the answer now should point you in the correct direction.

    The other question regarding the MacMillan nurse availability is something YOU have to find out from the MacMillan helpline or other agencies such as CLAN.

    There is a lot of help out there but sadly it's not centralised and you have to dig about for it yourself.

    I ended up finding out about CLAN as shopping in a town away from home earlier this year I saw a CLAN office and out of nosiness went in to find out what cancer help they had?
     

    That was a chance well worth taking as they offered all sorts of advice.
    So you just go for it!

    Being informed makes a big difference as it gives you some control on deciding what to do next.

     

     

  • Offline in reply to Sausage1

    Hi,

    Thank you so much for all your help. I will keep you updated after Monday see how I get on xx

  • Offline in reply to cath04

    I'm sure you are in the best of hands.

    Good luck and let me know how you get on.

     

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