Not getting support from boyfriend for my deteriorating mum

My mums got diagnosed with cancer in breast, lungs, liver and backbone nearly a month ago when she lost her mobility to walk. She's now bedbound and the oncologist have team are not treating her at the moment due to her fragile state. She's now being transferred to nursing home, where they can provide palliative care. Its all happening really fast within a month and I scared that anyday can be her last. The doctors didn't advise how long she got as it's very unpredictable. My family lives back home and its just, my mum and me here. 

Throughout this I feel very drained, anxious and feel like my boyfriend's of 6 year hasn't gone out of his way to offer support in anyways. He offerd but never pulls through to actually do it. To make matters worse his now planning a holiday for a week. I am worried, someone whose supposed to be my best friend is leaving me behind with no support. 

I try and give him a pass as we only lost his dad last year in May to cancer too. It was a long battle and drastically got bad in the end. I was there with him and for his family. Offering help and going out of my ways just to be there for him. 

I am just not getting the same support from him as I hoped but also know as it hasn't even been a year and maybe the circumstances pushed him to be that way. 

I've talked to him about it but he doesn't understand or sees it that way. 

  • im sorry your boyfriend of six years isn't much support when you need it, and more for what he wants to do rather than helping you, especially with you being there for him when he wanted support . i think you want to think about what he's going to be like in the future if other things go wrong health wise. i hope hope plenty of others will give you replys so you get plenty of ideas of best things to do for you.

    Billy

     

  • Hi savy,

     

    I do think its selfish of him to go abroad when youre struggling. Have you told him how you feel? Whats his response? 

     

    Good luck x