Terrible anxiety and panic waiting for breast lump referral

Hello everyone, found large breast lump on Tuesday. Went straight to gp. Booked for urgent referral approx 2 wks. I'm 66 so am petrified of outcome as older lady! Seems like I have all the worst symptoms! I can't sleep, lost of appetite. Seems ever since I found lump I now have aches and stabbing pains in area. I need some help and reassurance please

  • Had my referral today. Think I'm in same boat as you. Suspicious lump is looking like cancer! They recon early stage hopefully? Will get biopsy results next Monday, any treatment needed will be discussed then.

    Strangely I feel a kind of relief as was expecting much worse news

    I kinda new too! 

    Sending love and lots of best wishes to you xx

  • Hi Iresukts of biopsy's definitely cancer. Consultant wants to do chemotherapy for 4 months to reduce the tumours ..ive 2 ..4cm in total. ..followed by a lumpectomy. I'm going to see oncologist tomorrow to discuss treatment and start date. Still feels surreal. 
    Take care and keep in touch. We can journey on this road together xxx

  • Ok firstly do not look at Google you will scare yourself silly.  Although I know how very hard it is when youre plummeted into this limbo of not knowing what is going on.  I know as well it catches you unaware, on the whole I'm a very positive person, look for the rainbows through the rain is one of my fave sayings.  However even I have been having moments of sheer panic.  One day I was just washing my face picked my moisturiser up and then suddenly out of nowhere this thought of well if you're dying there really isn't any point using that sprung into my brain.  I had to give myself a stern telling off and told myself to get a grip.  So I do understand.  I am 46 just been diagnosed with breast cancer.  I am not terrified for myself but for my children and family.

    From what I have read I am in the minority and it usually is older ladies that are diagnosed so they will be well used to treating ladies like yourself.  Also if it is that then recovery rates are very high for it.  Even stage 3 has 86 percent recovery.  Stage 1 is over 99 percent.  Stage 2 I think was 96 percent.

    I know it is so difficult and I know that it is far easier said than done but try not to panic.  It won't change the outcome, and it will in all likelihood just make you feel worse.  It also is far easier to match symptoms to a given illness once you know you may have it.  Think of it like once you're pregnant you suddenly notice pregnant people everywhere don't you?  And babies?  Whereas you probably walked past them without a second thought beforehand.  Just keep telling yourself just wait and see if you can before your brain wanders all over the place x

  • Really hope all goes well for you. It's such an unbelievably anxious horrible time. Utter hell to go through. We will come out the other side xxx

  • Thank you ...it sure is xxx

  • Hi saw the oncologist who was very nice. Went through all the different types of breast cancer and I have triple negative which is only treated with chemotherapy and surgery. He's hoping to start me on chemo next Wednesday or Thursday. Went over all the side effects which scared me...but more scared the cancer spreads so will need to be brave. There's hundreds of woman going through this I just need to remind myself.  
    Didn't sleep well last night as all this was going through my mind. But I've had a shower and it's nice and sunny so going to make the most of the day. 
    Keeping you in my thoughts as I understand exactly what your going through. 
    Sending love and hugs xxx

  • Just wanted to wish you well with chemo, they like to whip you in quick...I know quite a few triple neg ladies who are all doing really well...

    chemo hit me pretty hard but a lady I met breezed through it! Didn't give up work either and stopped at Burger King after each cycle as it made her famished! 
     

    Try not to get hung up on the side effects, we all react differently....plus the chemo will be tailored for you and can be adjusted accordingly .

     

    let us know how you get on..xx

  • Thanks Marilyn I appreciate you answering me. Just finding it scary at the moment. I'm sure I will be ok as soon as I start treatment x

  • I have results discussion with specialist on Monday, bricking it. Understand completely what you are going through mentally. Hoping you are coping with your results and upcoming treatment. 

    Sending you all good thoughts and my very best wishes xx

    Ps will post my news soon x

     

     

  • I understand completely. It's so hard. My chemo has been put back a week as there was no space so I'm starting Wednesday 22nd September. I still feel sore and tender and bruised  after the biopsy's and that was 3 weeks ago on Monday. My breast nurse said this happens as they go in quite deep. 
    some days I'm ok others I'm terrible. My mind is all over the place. 
    However we will fight this together

    I'm wishing you loads of good luck on Monday. ️ ️ ️
    Take care lots of love and hugs xxxxxxx