11 cervical cancer free!.....however!

Hi.....not sure how to go about this but here goes......my names val.....at the age of 29 i was dignosed with stage 3b cervical cancer just 6 weeks after i got married. To say it was a shock is an understatement. I had been constantly at my gp for a while and finaly told me i had been referred to hospital for minor keyhole surgery to check my stomach.....so when at hospital turned out to be a cone biopsy......roughly 20 mins later i was sitting with dr who requesed that my husband comes in at that point we heard those words. You have cancer!.....everything else after that was just a blur!......fast forward to now...11 years later i have lost count of how many procedures and surgeries ive gone through. Although cancer free i do not feel lucky. Am i wrong to feel this way? 

 

  • Hi Val

    11 years cancer free is absolutely amazing! I was diagnosed with stage 2b cervical cancer in September 2018, and I’ve had chemo radiation and massive surgery last year for a recurrence. I do consider myself very lucky so I can’t identify with your feelings, but I’m sorry you feel that way. I consider every single day to be an absolute blessing. How does it affect you, if I can ask? I’m never free of th3 fear if recurrence, but I try not to let it dominate my life. 

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    Hi Val,

    I am so sorry to hear how you feel now, despite being cancer free. I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer in the past 12 years and, like you been through more procedures than I care to remember.

    We all live with the fear of recurrence, but try not to let it overwhelm us - this can be hard for those of us who have already had a recurrence. I have had times when I felt like you, but I have tried to turn my mind set around and now feel that every morning I wake up is a bonus.

    Life for all of us is too short to be miserable. Would you consider seeing a counsellor to help you to come to terms with all that has happened? This can really help to put things into context and to make you feel lucky to be alive.

    Please keep in touch and remember that we are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx