Hi Feelinglostwith,

A very warm welcome to our forum, although I'm so sorry to hear why you've joined us. I offer my sincere condolences on he loss of your mum and your sister-in-law. Losing her so soon afterwards must have come as a double whammy.

Losing our mums is a huge thing in our lives and it can be difficult to come to terms with. You did well to nurse her at home until the end, but it can be hard to block out those final pictures when she was suffering, from our minds. Have you thought about getting counselling to help you to cope with this? Cruse Bereavement Care can be very helpful when you feel like this. I am sure that your mum would hate to tsee you feeling like this, so please consider getting some help.

Do please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi [@Feelinglostwithoutmum]‍ 

I'm so sorry to hear that your Mum passed away on Boxing Day to lung cancer. It must have been incredibly difficult for you to look after her with little help and to see her suffer.

I lost my Mum to lung cancer on 15th May and I feel the same as you - my life has been completely turned upside down and I don't know how I'll ever be normal again. It's been just over a month for me and I too feel like everyone expects me to be feeling better and start moving on but I just can't. I miss her terribly. She was taken far too soon. I'm struggling to function knowing I'll never see or speak to her again.

I think it's normal to wonder if you could have done more for her. I think this about my Mum too. I would have gone to the ends of the earth for her and still would think I didn't do enough. They were our Mum's and deserved the very best. Unfortunately cancer is cruel and very unfair.

I'm hoping to start bereavement counselling soon. A few forum members have recommended this to me and say that it does ease the burden. Is this something you've considered?

Thinking of you and here to talk x

Thank you for your kind words ,im so sorry about your loss of your mum ,I tried counselling but didn't help much ,we were together every day so I suppose we have to try to adjust to life without them , I just don't have any interest in anything at the moment ,we will get there evening our own way ,hope counselling works for you take care xx