Feedback from those wanting a double mastectomy

Hello, I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2014. Had a mastectomy, chemo and tamoxifen. Seven years later I'm still trying to get a mastectomy on the right side. Mentally I'm finding it very hard to deal with how they've left my breasts. They are so different. It is so obvious; one is much bigger than the other. Then there is the fear of reoccurrence as my breast is always lumpy. They did reduce it about 5 years ago. During the op, they moved the nipple which is now very sore as it rubs against my bra and clothes. It has affected my life - put it this way, I'm surprised my partner is still with me, bless him.

I've been added to the waiting list to have flap procedure, taking fat from my belly. This depresses me even more. Why they think a scar across my belly is preferable just doesn't make sense to me.

My reason for unloading here is for some feedback on how others feel, if people feel similar, how did they get on? 

I'm thinking about doing a psychological research paper (I'm an undergraduate) as I certainly feel the procedure should be offered to patients who are adamant about it. (I recently read papers on Parkinson's and the patient experience) I doubt I am the only one - so thoughts would be appreciated. 

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  • Hello Hollis,

    I was left 'lop sided' as it were after a breast reduction to remove the cancerous tumour in November 2019. I was heavy breasted so the end result (whilst very glad to get rid of the cancer!!) left me looking extremely weird. Practically had one perfect breast and one a yard long on the other side?!! Not a good look!!! 
     

    I was aware I would wait about 2 years, perhaps longer, to be evened up on the NHS (longer than normal owing to Covid) So I chose to have the op privately in November 2020. 
     

    Certainly this decision helped me enormously psychlogically. I have felt more positive and more attractive since. I don't regret having it done at all. I did wonder at times why I was bothering, but like you I was  feeling down about the way my body had been left.  I actually didn't think at first I would care at all about having one small breast and one large one. But actually I really did. 
     

    Yes life is better if we feel good about ourselves and after the shock of a cancer diagnosis it's sometimes a struggle to get back up. My lovely husband always supported me and never reacted to me any differently to the way he always had. That helped of course. 
     

    I do recommend breast cancer survivors get equalled up IF the way they look bothers them. It doesn't bother everyone of course. We are all different. 
     

    I wish you well. This cancer malarkey isn't for sissy's is it?

     

    Kebbs    

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  • Hello Hollis,

    I was left 'lop sided' as it were after a breast reduction to remove the cancerous tumour in November 2019. I was heavy breasted so the end result (whilst very glad to get rid of the cancer!!) left me looking extremely weird. Practically had one perfect breast and one a yard long on the other side?!! Not a good look!!! 
     

    I was aware I would wait about 2 years, perhaps longer, to be evened up on the NHS (longer than normal owing to Covid) So I chose to have the op privately in November 2020. 
     

    Certainly this decision helped me enormously psychlogically. I have felt more positive and more attractive since. I don't regret having it done at all. I did wonder at times why I was bothering, but like you I was  feeling down about the way my body had been left.  I actually didn't think at first I would care at all about having one small breast and one large one. But actually I really did. 
     

    Yes life is better if we feel good about ourselves and after the shock of a cancer diagnosis it's sometimes a struggle to get back up. My lovely husband always supported me and never reacted to me any differently to the way he always had. That helped of course. 
     

    I do recommend breast cancer survivors get equalled up IF the way they look bothers them. It doesn't bother everyone of course. We are all different. 
     

    I wish you well. This cancer malarkey isn't for sissy's is it?

     

    Kebbs    

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