Feeling helpless

For the past ten years (but 5 years intensely) I looked after my aunt. I am her closest relative. I was brought up with her and my grandparents. Se was always a gossip and no out of her way to spread horrible lies about me. None of my achievements were ever acknowledged. I had to take part time work so that I would be free to take her to doctors/hospital appointments. When I got my teaching job (I was 53, I am now nearly 56), I still could only take part time work. I have never had money or the chance to follow my career and secure myself financially. I rent my house. To cut a long story short, I would be driving to work, which took an hour each way, calling at her house in the morning and then doing her tea in the evening. I would get home around 8pm, exhausted. Last year she was admitted to hospital (I was the one who always  had to go and wait for the ambulance, on the many occasions she needed one. If her feet come out of Bedingfield the middle of the night  I was the one she rang. I am a single mother, so I would have to drag my daughter out of bed to come eith me. She had told me for years and years that when she passed, everything was going to me. Logical choice, plus she made me feel guilty and manipulated me into going the extra mile to meet her demands. While in hospital she rang me to demand I give up my job because she would now need me on hand at all times. She even asked me to give up my house and move in with her. She passed away this year. I was with her when she died  I did her makeup before her funeral. The day before her funeral I got a phone call a second cousin saying that her sister (no relative to my aunt by blood, and was next of kin, executor ofvtge will, power of attorney for health and finances) had got the Will. My aunty had left £10,000 to my dad, £3,000 to my middle daughter and £38,000 plus the house to this cousin. I should mention that this cousin had started to take her for coffee once a week, she took photos and calendars of her grandchildren. My aunties house was like a shrine to them. To say I am devastated is an understatement. I have no savings, I rent my house. This relative is rich and I mean rich. 

  • Hi alot of relatives just do what they want and couldn't care less about some of the family never mind what they have done for them.as you find out.

    When my mother died my father gave everything to my step sister,(no relationship to my mother at all) I still kept visiting my father taking my wife Now and again and looking after my grand parents because my father didn't want to go,(he was fit enough only 3minate walk)

    Both grandparents died over next 5years still kept visiting father till he started calling my wife names, couple of years passed and My father turned up at door told me hes moving in with My step sister she's got a house built with a granny flat for him,and he wants me to give him anything we've got from my mother he wants wants to give it to my stepsister wouldn't believe we had nothing.so another row.

    When father died everything went to step sister, but by that time I didn't care,I had a good life of my own.

    Then got a letter stepsister bragging about all she got from him.

    Thought good for you.only maybe a bit rude words.

    Carry on get your life sorted do what you want.

    Enjoy life.

    Take care of yourself.

    Billy