Feeling lost (triple diagnosis)

Hello, I am new to this forum and have never been so affected by anything as much as this. I was diagnosed with melanoma in situ last year (terrifying but now all clear), shortly afterwards my mum was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer (died October). 

Watching her deteriate was horrific and I see flash backs still as she went to nothing), shortly after she died (days after) my dad got diagnosed with throat cancer (had palliative radiotherapy) it's contained and today we found out he now has bowel cancer (awaiting staging in 2 weeks). I feel resentful, numb, lost, isolated and wonder how to get through this as I feel like a different person. Any advice much appreciated thank you xxx 

  • Hi Lisa-M,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm so sorry to read about everything you've been through recently - I can only imagine how tough this has been - it sounds like an awful lot to deal with.

    I'm glad you've found this forum and I hope you find it to be a helpful place to be for you. It often helps to talk to others, especially those who may have been - or are in - similar situations. Do also feel free to browse the forum for any other relevant discussions that may help.

    If you'd like to explore options perhaps for emotional support or something similar, Macmillan may be able to help - you can always give them a call.

    Try to make sure you are looking after yourself too. This can include simple things like daily walks, taking time for yourself to read a book, or perhaps something like meditation via an app or similar.

    Try to take things one day at a time - it is a bit cliched but it often helps.

    Hopefully with my reply here you'll get further replies from other people on the forum - but otherwise as I say, do have a browse around.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

  • What a lot to happen in a year, seems crazy doesn't it? Sad to hear your mum has gone already from oesophagus cancer, my husband has the same at only 44 and we have been told to expect him to be with us for only another 3 or 4 weeks, it is an awful fast moving disease. I also have a sister who has stage 4 melanoma and wasnt expected to be here  now, but seems to be doing 'ok' for now on immunotherapy. Two years ago my mums identical twin lost her battle with mouth cancer and my dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer (controlled). Previously to this virtually no cancer in our family and then BANG! I have no idea why our family is going through so much pain and suffering recently and I really feel for you, I have two young girls also suffering immensely with the thought of losing their Dad, sorry I have no answers how we cope with the 'overload' of cancer that has been allotted to us but you are not alone... from what I have heard bowel cancer is usually treatable if in early stages, fingers crossed for your Dad xx

  • Hi there, am so sorry to hear about your situation it sounds very traumatic and stressful. Sending warm wishes you get through this. I just hate cancer and the devastation it causes xx

  • Thanks for your thoughts,  it's the worst thing I have ever been through in my life, such strong emotional pain,  I know things will never be the same for me and my girls again

  • Hi there, so sorry to hear of your situation. I've had cancer twice and am now clear. My partner has just been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer which has spread to his liver. I have found great comfort and support through reading about Joe Tippens and his cancer story.

  • Great you are now clear and thanks for the Joe Tippens info will look this up. Thank you x