hello I totally understand how you feel after BC diagnosis I too was recently diagnosed with stage2 invasive ductal carsanoma my head was in a whirlwind of appointments mammogram followed by positive biopsy then a lumpectomy then waiting for results and now I finally have a treatment plan of radiation therapy starting on 18th December for 15 rounds followed by tablets for 5 years it's so mentally draining and a lot to take in after the initial shock but it does get better I feel much better now I know the plan it was the waiting for results that was the worst I'm feeling really well right now eating healthy and getting excercise making a few lifestyle changes and feeling positive there is a lot of good info on here from lots of women in the same situation so you're in the right place for good advice I hope this helps to hear your not alone 

marue x

Thank you for your reply Marue, I'm glad that your feeling much better. 

Your definitely right, the waiting is the worst part and for me knowledge is power and the whole process is daunting without the answers to all the questions racing through your mind at 2 in the morning. 

I am so glad I posted as its nice to chat with people who understand. 

Sending you hugs for your treatment x

Hi Sookie,

I was diagnosed with Stage 1 grade 2 last month.  It's all a bit of a whirlwhind - i had sugery Wednesday  just gone (lumpectomy and mastopexy (reconstruction)) and am now recovering from that, next stop will be to get the results to see if they got it all and whether I'll need any further  surgery or whether I'll go straight to treatment ("hopefully" radiotherapy). 

It's a scary thing to through. I hope you can take some comfort in the journeys and success stories on these chat forums - they have been invaluable to me and kept me positive. 

All the best for your journey

Embop x

Hi thank you for your reply, it definitely is comforting to have people to chat to now on here that understand and can relate to the whirlwind of feelings.

I hope your results are good and your treatment sees it off for definite. 

Best wishes to you in your journey too x

Hi all ...

When I first came on here, I chatted with about 5 others all newly diagnosed and all different breast cancers .. different treatments ... and one lass started the thread " the good and bad" she wanted to chat honestly about both and the things we go through .. the rollercoaster of called  cancer .. 

We were all frightened .. we all agreed the wait to start treatment was the worse time ...  I spent 2 days locked away crying / cussing cancer ... got everything out .. felt so much stronger after .. then my daughter in law sat us down and said no more panicking  ... no more what ifs ... well take on every new problem as and when it comes up.... and we'll do it together ... 

Then got the pink vertual boxing gloves and got in the ring with the other ladies on here .. we were together in kicking cancers butt ... looked it in the eye and we boxed it right back .. lots of others have joined that thread .. it's really long now as we started summer 2017 ... and now where are those lasses ..  well I'm still here chatting .. most the others have started their "new normal" life after cancer , so only pop by occasionally .... and we've not lost one of them yet .. 

The thread was about everything not just cancer .. we held each other up through tough times .. and even laughed at the funny things ... yes there was funny times too .. so seeing there's a few of you, why don't you all start a new thread , like "the next good and bad thread" and l can tell you now, having somewhere to go with others going through the same and really KNEW what we were all going through... it was the best thing I ever did ..  l had a total right masectomy in July 2017 ...  

So my heart goes out to you all .. but know there's so many now living after breast cancer .. and one of those lasses just had a baby boy a few months ago ... so ladies get your gloves on and join us in the ring , KICKING CANCERS ***      Chrissie x

Thank you so much Chrissie, your message was really inspiring and a reminder that even though it feels bad right now, things will get easier and the sooner the better.

I had 2 failed IUI and 2 failed IVF a couple of years ago which I thought was bad enough to endure as well as my 2 brothers and my mum being affected by cancer too. 

Life's full of tests and I guess this is just another. 

I'm a strong minded person. Life's taught me that I need to be, so if I could help support anyone that's at the same stage as me I'd be more than happy to. 

My gloves are on and ready for action

I'll cry with, laugh with and support as much I can xxx

That's the girl ...

Cancer wants us to lay down and never get up... wants us weak and vulnerable then it feels strong .. 

It's all about balance... admitting it's scary ... and sharing tears and fears with those we love .. the biggest lesson I've learned is letting feelings out ... process them ... give yourself permission to feel anything .. then getting back up and putting gloves back on .... 

I'm sure that attitude helps us through ... I'm hear most days so any questions,  just ask away .. I've also got a wicked sense of humour that's helped me through ..

A few weeks After my masectomy , my 5 year old granddaughter was sitting on my lap watching t.v .. I was adjusting my false boob .. she turned round and quick as a flash, pulled my tea shirt away and screamed  " nanny how are you going to feed babies now "   I was 63 then ... l still laugh about it now ..

Big hug to all on this rollercoaster   ...  Chrissie xx 

Chriss that made me laugh about your granddaughter

Thank you :-)

Hi Sookie79! What you are going through now is the worst part of it all, believe me. You dont feel in control and lots of dark thoughts keep popping into your head. I was in the exact same position in May this year. I was diagnosed with Stage 2, gone into lymph nodes. Good news is - I've just finished my chemotherapy last week and I will be having surgery the first week in January. I have to decide on a double masectomy or a lumpectomy. I am a little scared but not as much as I was in May when I didnt know what lay ahead. It really is the worse time - but once you start your treatment you will feel better about it all. So stay strong. Lots of ladies on here have been through it. The best advice I can give it to take each day as it comes. Dont think too far ahead as it can become overwhelming. The chemo by the way wasnt as bad as I thought it would be. Tiredness was the worse thing but I coped ok with that. Best of luck - you will meet lots of positive ladies in the hospital too! xxx 

Hi suziewong, thank you for your reply, your absolutely right it is the not knowing that is the worst. 

I am going on Tuesday to get the results of 2nd biopsy to get definite plan of either lumpectomy or mastectomy. 

I told myself that at least I know it's either of the two and that then it'd be gone but I am not going to lie they both scare me equally.

The fear of the unknown I guess.

Once I know I can process it better. 

I have a step daughter who I am extremely close to and trying to protect her I feel I am suppressing feelings that really need to come out. 

Instead of virtual boxing gloves I think I need the real deal ha ha. Now that would be good therapy....

Hope your taking it easy and having some much needed TLC xx