Hi pg  i take it you like tea,,. i understand where your coming from but it's just unlucky, four years ago my wife got skin cancer on her top lip luckily simple operation cured, a year later i got prostate cancer which had gone to lymph nodes, spine, ribs, pelvis and a lung, its uncurable, i call it my uninvited guest, i need cemo now and again, to keep the cancer count down but I've learned over the years to live with it, hope your husbands treatment goes well... Billy

P.s don't worry you can rant all you like on forum, have you tried macmillan there supposed to be able to help sort money worry out, good luck.. 

Thank you Bill . we have got an appointment tomorrow and there is a McMillan office /help desk inside the hospital so i will ask there . i hope you are well.  the invited house guest is exactly what my husband calls his follicular lymphoma cos it won't go away but it can be managed and if treatment goes well you can live along side it.