Hi pg  i take it you like tea,,. i understand where your coming from but it's just unlucky, four years ago my wife got skin cancer on her top lip luckily simple operation cured, a year later i got prostate cancer which had gone to lymph nodes, spine, ribs, pelvis and a lung, its uncurable, i call it my uninvited guest, i need cemo now and again, to keep the cancer count down but I've learned over the years to live with it, hope your husbands treatment goes well... Billy

P.s don't worry you can rant all you like on forum, have you tried macmillan there supposed to be able to help sort money worry out, good luck.. 

Hi pg,, have you thought of being official carer as long as under pension age, and see if you can get money off council tax,. Hope this helps,, you do get usto living with cancer i was surprised how quickly i got usto it myself. Again good luck and best wishes.. Billy