Friend just diagnosed

Hello, feels strange not sure where to start. Friend of over 40yrs just been diagnosed with secondary bone cancer? Started with breast cancer. How do you start to understand how or why this happens. My friend and husband i feel are in denial, how do you approach the subject without feeling interfering.,She has had lots of issues trying to get to a stage where she can start chemo, blood count all over the shop, high temperature, infection... after 8 weeks only just managed 2 bouts of chemo. She wont open up to talk about her plan, how can i help, i feel helpless.

  • Hi just be their for her when she needs a friend, she probably doesn't know what she wants herself sometimes kemo can knock you for six with out trying. Is she having operation on brest or just kemo. Husband might be In shock as well not sure how to help not wanting to make any mistakes give her a bit of time to work things out. Best wishes and good luck. 

    Billy 

  • Thank you so much for your reply, and taking the time to offer support. it might seem selfish but i feel like I'm drowning so cannt imagine at all how everyone deals with this its so cruel. Reaching out on this forum seemed to provide a little comfort.

    They are not going to operate on the breast tumor it has gone into lymph system. On to lungs and into bone. We see them as much as possible without being overbearing. Trying to be there for all the family.

    Life really is too short and every moment is a treasured memory.

    Love hope and best thoughts to everyone on this forum going through torment.

  • Well done you are doing the right thing they are lucky to have a friend like you when things get like this you find out who you're friends are a lot of people don't want to know look after yourself as well good luck. 

    Billy